Sorry, didn't mean to drip feed just needed some firm advice quickly
I was with exH for 6 years. We have 3 children. I was sole carer for our children since we separated when the youngest was 3 months old. I got no support from him for years.
2 years ago I became ill. I couldn't give 3 small children what they needed whilst I was going through treatment for my illness. There was also the fact that no-one knew exactly how long it would take to recover from the illness I had, it could have been sorted with one dose of treatment, or it could have been years worth...it was up in the air.
He would say he would have the children on x-y-z days, then on the day he would let me down. I had absolutely no respite. Mostly he would refuse to have them so I was with 3 children under 4, 24/7, and ill. It ended up coming to a head....
I was under the care of several doctors and nurses due to mine and my childrens disabilities, eventually it was agreed between the ExH and SS that he would have residency until I recovered.
I got better far sooner than expected (probably in part due to the fact that I actually got a rest!) and he agreed that we could have the children 50/50.
For the last 18 months we have done this amicably, we go out together with the children at times. We have been to family events on both sides together. I have the children 3 nights but more days in the weekend, he has them 4 nights but spends literally no weekend time with them.
I looked after the children after he went away for a 'big birthday' for 5 days...he came to collect the children on the morning he was due back and went MENTAL. I was assaulted in front of my kids (who are now old enough to realise what he is doing) and screamed at.
He is now messaging me through FB, Whatsapp and Text abusing me, AGAIN!
School have picked up on their behaviour changes. I have been openly honest about what happened. They have mentioned a child counsellor to speak with them.
I don't know what to do!! He twists everything to make it seem like my fault!