My boyfriend of three years who has never said he loves me and has moved to a new house further away

[Petals23]

So we've been together 3 years. Although it doesn't bother me too much because he's not great at expressing emotions, he's never said he loves me. I said it to him after a year and a half and he just replied he's not great at saying I love you.

Also, this time last year he moved away from our local town and we only see each other at weekends now. He's about an hour away. We used to see each other once or twice in the week before, whereas now it's usually a Saturday night to Sunday. I've plans tomorrow night and he wanted to see me tonight, but I just felt no, I'll be late home from work, we haven't seen each other on a Friday night in ages and it's just to suit him for the night... I said there was no point coming to me late and we won't be doing anything as I'll be tired and want to go to bed.

I suppose in a way I feel he's made a decision to move and often I'm expected now to fall in with what suits him. Am I being unreasonable?

I'm sorry, but he's not committed. Who moves further away after 3 years? Best save yourself and start fresh.

You'd be unreasonable to think you have a future with this man, OP. He's doing what he wants. He can't communicate his feelings for you - he doesn't say, "Look, sorry, I don't love you" or "I love you" but just lets you tell him how much you love him and says nothing back. And now he's moved away.... Time to move on, OP. There's a much nicer guy out there just waiting for a man like you.

A woman like you, I mean!

Raise your bar. This man just isn't that into you..

What sort of future do you think you have with this man?

After three years, I'd expect to either move nearer OR to regularly come and stay the whole weekend/see you very regularly. My dh and I spent two years living in separate towns for work reasons but I never had reason to doubt his sincerity. He had to live in Russia for a few months and wrote me a postcard everyday. We lived three hours apart and I didn't drive, he was working in a hospital so long hours, but sometimes he would turn up unexpectedly just because he'd missed me. We regularly talked about the future and when would we be able to live together. If you are not having these conversations, do you even have a future?

Ditto the above. Luck your wounds and move on.

Sounds like you need to move on and find someone who will be committed to you, and love you. Don't waste any more time OP!

He's treating you as a filler girlfriend. Fine for a bit of sex and company when he feels like it as long as there is no commitment or obligation until he finds someone he does want to commit to.

Ditch him. It wont improve and your self esteem will take a proper shoeing in the interim.

The relationship is over. After 3 years you are physically and emotionally moving apart. He didnt tell you he loved you and now he won't tell you it's over. I would finish it unless you want a very casual, sex occasionally relationship.

What a grey relationship. It just sounds like habit.

Don’t let your life drip away like this OP.