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I think ive given up!?!?

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Alfiesmom15 · 28/11/2019 20:29

We've been together 6 years and I don't think I can take anymore, we've had sex twice since January, and both times have been shit... he's been speaking to me like shit all week, literally Monday Morning he sat up in bed and started having a go because id left a drawer open, (the drawer I was still getting my socks out of) as soon as I got in from work he was moaning, same as yesterday, same as today. the only interaction ive been getting from him lately is listening to him moan about something... I bit yesterday and today he's going on about my attitude stinking... I asked his Sunday to put some washing on the airer, I come back from doing to weekly shop, he hadn't done it...he forgot?" (before I went he said no I could do it when I got back, so I know damn well he didn't forget) yesterday I asked him to start dinner for when I got home, he hadn't, hadn't even washed up the dishes he used in the day... I put the clothes on the side this morning, although I didn't ask he still didn't do it, they were there when I got home. he's hung a mirror up for me today so clearly I should be eternally grateful for that. my dads currently staying with us for a little while hes made little digs about him being here for the forseeable and has he not sorted certain things out yet. (different story but he's having some trouble) being awkward about who parks their car where. (its my house I pay all the rent and the bills so surely if my dad wants to stay here for 6 weeks or 6 months I should be able to have that without him commenting keeping in mind he offered the spare room out for one of his family members rent free not too long back) im fed up of fighting a losing battle all the bloody time, being moaned at constantly. im fed up of everything falling down to me all the time. he works self employed but what he manages to put into the house most of the time wouldn't even cover half the bills, just helps with food. I don't even know what I see in him anymore.

OP posts:
BillHadersNewWife · 28/11/2019 20:41

What?? You're allowing this person to live in your house and you're paying ALL the bills and rent?? Kick him out! Oh my God OP...you can't even call him a cock lodger if the sex is shit!

No kids I hope?

Does he work? Why's he at home all the time?

Kick the bastard out TODAY! Seriously! You'll be much happier and you'll save money too. THen you can just relax...how DARE he comment on your Dad!?

Inforthelonghaul · 28/11/2019 20:42

Me neither OP.

Alfiesmom15 · 28/11/2019 20:48

he self employed, we have a child so him being self employed meant we didn't have to pay childcare, (he would never make enough to cover all the bills) he doesn't make enough to cover half the bills. My dads having a really rough time at the minute so him being at my house I can keep an eye on him, id never see his mom or any of his family on the streets (despite him offering my spare room out for free), yes it a little inconvenient at times but its my dad none of that matters and I don't see why I have to defend my decision on that to him.
im that emotionally exhausted I feel like im dragging lead weights around with me daily.

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BillHadersNewWife · 28/11/2019 20:52

Child or not, you don't have to live like this. How would you feel about telling him to leave? How might he react?

Asli2020 · 28/11/2019 20:56

He sounds incredibly draining. Ask for some time apart. If he's moaning about everything, he can't be happy either

Heartburn888 · 28/11/2019 21:44

Tell him to fuck off

Fairycake2 · 28/11/2019 21:53

Do you want to sort things out or would you rather just call it a day? If you want to sort it out you need to have a serious chat about how miserable he's making you and how it's not right for him to treat you the way he does. If he doesn't get it and do some serious grovelling then he clearly thinks it's ok to treat you like dirt and you should pack his bags. For your DCs sake as much as anything you shouldn't let him treat you this way. Good luck 💐

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