Normal family Christmas

[Thehouseintheforest]

I have done nothing other than read awful (as in sad, terrible, weird, and self indulgent) stories of various Christmas plans..
Am I the only one who ;

Would never want or need a 'Christmas to ourselves'
Love all my brothers and SIL
Would LOVE to spend Christmas with my IN laws if they were still alive (and did until they died)
Look forward to my mother and step dad visiting..

Am I alone in being the last person in the UK with Zero Christmas hassle despite being the step parent to 5 and the mother of three ?

I like your christmas post OP.Mine is really good too.I am pleased to say.We head off home to my mums and have a lovely day.No drama no stress just laid back and happy to spend time catching up with each other over a lovely lunch then sharing gifts and watching The Queen before we head off home again to all our respective houses.I have a grown up son 29 and his partner and me my dh and daughter aged 8 and my brother and the question of where we are spending christmas day just never comes up its just taken for granted we are meeting up at mums.Yesterday my son said what time are we off to nans on Xmas day?! It is a really happy day and I cherish it as I am sure it won;t always be like it is now as peoples lives evolve but for now its a very happy christmas spent laughing and spending time together.It makes me feel really grateful too that we all gel so well and like being together,I appreciate christmas is bloody awful for some families and a real struggle on every level, I feel for them.

Preachy much?

@Thehouseintheforest -I suggest you ask Santa to bring you some empathy for Christmas.

Focusing on what’s good, yourself, is fine.

Judging others for their thoughts and feelings about their situations is not.

I can't wait to sit down with the man who tried to murder my mother. Honestly, I am glad for you, but there are many complicated factors that go into people's feelings around Christmas because it is supposed to be a family time and it highlights to those of us with abusive or unpleasant families that we will never be like the people in the nice Xmas movies.

I do think avoiding worrying about things that won't matter in five years is a good thing though. I make the best of the season after so many awful childhood Christmas', but families are complicated and even if hypotherical you can be the bigger person, others may not be and then it just spoils things for everyone else.

Hypothetical even. Cold hands

.. and really stop focussing in the small stuff..all those people who annoy you.. how would you feel if they were no longer there. I guess that's where my thread comes from

Well I say it is nonsense.
I don’t get the point of this Christmas bull. If you want to be nice to others then do it all year around

Some people annoy me, yes. That doesn’t mean I wish them ill or I mistreat them. It also means that I want to spend a nice holiday with people that don’t annoy me. Good for me.

I am sure I annoy others. I don’t try to force my presence.

I have lost loved ones. It happens. Irreplaceable. Do you know what it taught me? That life is too bloody short to invest time and energy forced into spending time with people that set your anxiety through the roof.

So you like your family. Excellent.
I like my DH and my DC. Good for me. Those are my Christmas.