Heartbroken

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I’ve been dumped again and my heart is breaking.

I feel like I can’t take it anymore. I’m so lonely and when I meet someone I fall in love very quickly and then it ends and each time it’s worse.

We had loads of plans and now I can just see emptiness. I was already depressed and this is like the final straw and I just feel completely broken.

I’m not going to hurt myself but I can’t see a way forward anymore either. I don’t know what I want from this I just hurt so much

Take a deep breath, get a blanket and a cup of tea, do something that comforts you on a physical level and then cry.

Do that for as long as it takes. Then you take another deep breath, dust yourself on and do things that you like. Build yourself up and continue to fight another day.

You're not alone. I'm sorry you're hurting so much

I’m so sorry that you are going through such a rough time. When things are so raw little can be said to make you feel better at the start but do know things will get better, you are not alone in the situation and it’s going to take time. This is a time to be kind to yourself, and do things that you enjoy doing just for you. Break ups are awful!

It just feels like this is the pattern my life is going to keep following. I ended a long term abusive relationship 18 months ago and since then I’ve had a series of short relationships with emotionally unavailable people and then they finish it and I get left heart broken because I get attached too fast.

This most recent one is even worse because it’s because she’s having a really bad time and is struggling and says she won’t get better whilst she’s with someone yet says it’s really hurting her and she misses me and had such a nice time with me. And that’s so much worse than someone just not being into me

You are not long out of an abusive relationship.
You are NOT ready for another one yet.
You need to do some work on yourself.
Learn to love yourself.
Learn to be by yourself.
You will go from one bad relationship to another if you don't get this sorted out.
You admit you get attached too fast.
You are pinning way too much hope on finding 'the one' and living happily ever after.
Guess what??? That does not happen very often.

Did you get support from a DV charity after the end of your abusive relationship?
Womens Aid can help you.
They also run a course 'The Freedom Programme'. You should attend this asap as well.
This will help massively with your boundaries and self-esteem and spotting red flags.
Please do it sooner rather than later!
But you cannot expect anyone to love you unless you know how to love yourself!

I agree with @hellsbellsmelons you need to have some time for yourself and learn to love yourself before you can be in a committed and happy relationship. You can't keep relying on other people for your own happiness otherwise you'll always end up disappointed.

I know. I have been single for decent gaps - to be fair I can only really call this last one a relationship.

I’ve had therapy but the 6 free sessions I can get don’t scratch the surface and I can’t afford to go private.
I didn’t date for 8 months after the relationship ended then had 2 nasty experiences back to back, didn’t date for another 6 months and I started when I felt good and well in myself.

I will look into the freedom programme because although I can’t fault the way the last one treated me, she has big issues around commitment and this does seem to be my style.

Sorry you are hurting. Be kind to yourself. Do things to make you feel good. You will get there and feel better