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Don't know what to do

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girlanonymous · 28/11/2019 08:16

I posted on here at the weekend when boyfriend had left me for ex. On Monday he decided he wanted to try and at least make it work. I’m just over 18 weeks pregnant now. I agreed we should try and make it work.

His ex wouldn’t stop texting so I sent her a very long text, trying to be as sympathetic as I can to her situation. She called me without reading the full text and just sounded broken and sad. He told her he was going to be with her and they could raise the baby together, that we weren’t as serious as we were.

And I can tell he’s guilt ridden by what he’s done, but he caused the situation he’s in. She’s 49 and has no kids and feels lonely, and he’s worried she’s going to do something. She’s been telling him how her dad wants to sell his house and move to the city so she can move to his and give us her house. She’s spiralling. I know she’s been in love with him for 15 years, long before I ever met him. He promised her everything then took it away. I don’t know whether she’s saying all this to get his attention or because she may actually be on a downward spiral. And I don’t know what to do. It’s causing stress.

I feel sad for her situation but I’m also sad about the situation he put me in this past weekend. I don’t know what to do.

OP posts:
BellyButto · 28/11/2019 10:35

Wow OP this man sounds like a real prize...

He cant be that wonderful if he's causing all this shit with his lying and hurtful behaviour. Why on earth are you happy to be in the middle of this triangle? He is playing you off against each other and youre feeling sorry for him? Give your head a wobble.

Winterdaysarehere · 28/11/2019 10:39

Better to get rid now and concentrate on your pregnancy - he isn't committed to you or the baby if he is cheating.
Please don't lower yourself to do the Pick Me dance. He has shown his true colours.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 28/11/2019 10:40

Fuck him off - the man is an absolute tool.

SuperbMonkey · 28/11/2019 10:41

Agreed. I’m sure that she didn’t appreciate your input either. I know how I would feel if I was 49, childless not from choice, and my ex-partner’s pregnant girlfriend contacted me. It would not improve my mood! I would stay well out of their mess and concentrate on my own situation which doesn’t look rosy. Your DP is a liar and a cheat. He has shown you who he is- believe him!

SuperbMonkey · 28/11/2019 10:44

Your own situation, sorry.

StrayWoman · 28/11/2019 10:44

He sounds like a prince.

I think you should both ditch this poor excuse for a man.

HulksPurplePanties · 28/11/2019 10:49

Both of you ditch him, take her Dad's house and raise the baby together. It could be a sitcom.

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