Been with DP for six months. He's a really great guy; kind, funny, loving and has never left me in doubt over his feelings towards me.
I knew when we went on our first date he owned a house with his ex, he wanted to bring it up then, but she hasn't lived there for a year. They broke up two years ago as she wanted to be single, then lived together for a year in the house separately and now she lives with a new boyfriend. The house is on the market as DP wants to sell and buy his own place. All good.
Except when he first shared a public photo of us on social media his ex gf started a campaign to try and get him back. This was a few months ago now. She called him and told him she wanted to try again and missed him. He told her that not only had he always told her they wouldn't get back together if she left, he had met someone new (me) and really liked them so wasn't interested. This is true as I was with him when she phoned.
She didn't seem to have got the message, sending texts every few days about missing him, sending pictures of them when they were together etc. He hasn't replied but has had to occasionally respond due to the house. He's shown me the message threads and I trust him.
Yesterday he had to message again about the house as they had a viewing. She responded with another long essay about missing him. This time I said I have had enough. I'm not threatened by her but this is the kind of crap you expect to deal with with someone who is on the rebound, not split up for 2 years. I asked him to message her again being very clear and the message had obviously not got through. He was reluctant to do so as he doesn't want to hurt her.
Eventually he did so, but the whole thing has left me feeling soured. Should I feel like this? I feel like he is sparing her feelings at the expense of mine.