Domestic abuse?

[southlondonchick]

A mum at school who I know quite well (wouldn’t say we were friends but we’re always friendly with each other) and who seems to have the perfect family arrived at school with a black eye the other day. I immediately went over to see how she was and ask what had happened. She said she had fallen over. I had also recently heard that her husband has been having/had an affair. I don’t know him at all. I have been trying to work out how you get a black eye from falling over and it is preying on me as my immediate thought was abusive husband. Any suggestions? I haven’t seen her since so haven’t been able to follow up on her recovery. I don’t want to offend her but equally I wouldn’t want her to suffer in silence. Any advice? Thanks.

I think its possible. But then its equally possible you re jumping to huge conclusions.

The story about him having an affair is gossip. Since you have no idea if its true.

Also having affair, doesnt make you more likely to beat your wife.

My mil fell, getting f if the bus and got a black eye. She must have gone head first and hit that area on impact.

I get you dont want her to suffer in silence. But she is unlikely to tell someone she barely knows. Especially if she is aware people are already gossiping about her.

The best thing you can do is just try and be more friendly with her.

I wouldn’t say anything, you don’t know it was from her DH and she would likely take offence

I'd keep an eye on things. Have the WA number handy should you see anything like that again, as twice would be too much of a coincidence. Take her to one side, let her know you're concerned and that you hope she's ok. That you're there if she needs support and here is a number for an organisation that may be able to give her help and support.

Too many people turn a blind eye as they don't want to get involved but I'd rather be wrong, than she thought no one cared.

I completely agree with @12345kbm