Please help!!!!

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Me and this guy have been talking for over a year, we’ve had a rocky relationship although never been properly together.
We started talking again last week after a break and all seemed good, he’s been interested asking me how I am, what I’m up to etc etc.
We arranged to meet up and all went well and he said he wants to take me out on a date.
The last day he’s been quiet and I suffer with bad anxiety. I’m so worried he’s going to just bin me off and I don’t want to put it to him because I don’t want to come on too strong.
My question is does this guy seem like he really wants a date or was it a ploy to get me into bed?
I’ve mentioned it and he’s said I can choose what I want to do and where to go. He’s happy with my suggestion but not taking it further.
What shall I do? I may also add I’m madly in love with him. Our relationship has been complicated to say the least.
Does he want me I just don’t know. Someone please stop me from making a fool of myself again.

Why would you waste your time starting a romantic relationship with someone when things have historically been "rocky?" It's doomed before it's even begun.

You’re wasting your time. Bin him and move on.

Get yourself on Netflix and watch the film 'He's just not that into you'. Like the guy in it says - if a man wants to see you he'll make sure it happens. It sounds to me like you're getting played and he isn't fussed. Sorry, time to get over him and move onwards and upwards!

He is using you as a convenient shag.

He is picking you up and putting you down at his whim and you are allowing him to do it.

You are worth so much more than this.

Stop allowing him to use your body.

Block and move on.

Did you meet him for sex op is that what you're saying? And then he said he wanted to go on a date with you and has not progressed it?

If a man wants you to be his girlfriend it will be clear. He will say the words clearly and his enthusiastic actions will tell you.

Not getting that vibe? As other pp said... he just isnt that in to you. It doesnt take a year for someone to decide they want to couple up.

Delete block and move on. It’ll do your anxiety the world of good!

I suspect you did meet him for sex and as part of that he said he'd like to go on a date with you. It's just sweet talk.

Op if a man wants to date you he will ask you. It's that simple. If he doesn't he won't.

Please stop hanging on to this guy for crumbs and shagging him if he asks. It's not going to lead to a relationship. I'm sorry. It never does.

Have you actually met him?

Me and this guy have been talking for over a year, we’ve had a rocky relationship although never been properly together.

He's made NO effort in a year to come meet you.. he's not interested.

he’s said I can choose what I want to do and where to go. He’s happy with my suggestion but not taking it further.

He doesn't care enough to even suggest a Date idea.. he's not interested.

Why are you accepting so little? You are a ball of anxiety. Do you think that's normal? It isn't. This man picks you up and puts you down as he pleases, which is chipping away at your self esteem.

You need to want better for yourself and get rid of him for good. Don't buy into the idea that this is the best you can do. You sound miserable; this situation is not good for you.

So let’s recap, you haven’t heard from him in a day and are rethinking everything?

He may have good reason for not being in touch if it’s just a day. I wouldn’t let that put you off. However if he’s not making moves to arrange whatever you told him you’d like to do on a date and making sure you’re free that day etc then that’s him not being that into you.
Dont have sex with him as you won’t know if he’s dating you for a convenient shag or whether he’s wanting you as a potential long term relationship. Go on a few dates and don’t expect him to pay for everything. Don’t get drunk. Don’t shag.