FWB with someone who is in love with you

[Slapdasherie]

Is it fair? If you’re completely upfront with them, that you don’t want a relationship, not just with them but with anyone.
Or is there just too much potential for it to get messy?

So I’ve just found out that a guy I’ve known for 5 years thinks he’s in love with me or at least wants to be. I’m really not interested in having a relationship, but I like him, and think I would be happy with FWB arrangement. Should I suggest it?

Why be so cruel?

No its not fair. Your getting what you want out of the relationship with little/no concern for the others needs. Thats just using someone

No.

It will totally fuck him up. Find someone without emotional attachment.

Having been on the other side, please don’t do this. You will give him false hope and end up breaking his heart.

Not fair and very cruel. Why would you do this to someone?

No, it's cruel OP. That type of arrangement oy really suits those who can seperate emotion from hot sex.

Cruel.

Technically, theres nothing wrong if you are up front. Many people enter FWB relationships and then fall for the person, while the other person is clear about boundaries

However, you know this before you start it. You know he has strong feelings. You know , deep down he wants more.

Why would you want to do that to him?

Been there done that, never ends well. I went into it with the guy clear that I'd just come out of a serious relationship and wanted nothing more and he always said the same but when it came time to stop as I could feel he was too invested it got very messy and I lost a good friend.

In my opinion no matter how upfront and honest you are about it doesn't stop it being hurtful. He always just said he was hoping I'd change my mind.

So that’s a no.
Thank you for knocking some sense into me and making me think straight.

Not a good idea, and I agree with others that it would be cruel and selfish

Glad you thought again, OP.

The whole point of FWB is both of you being on the same page.