Can a couple save their relationship by living apart?

[KellyHall]

My husband just can't seem to stop getting stressed out by our family life and has frequent shouty outbursts.
I've spoken to him several times about it and he just isn't stopping it so I'm asking him this evening to move out, for the sake of all of us.
Is this the beginning of the healing or the end of our marriage?

Why is he getting stressed out?
Hell we all get stressed with family life.
He can't just get shouty about it.
He needs some coping strategies.
Has he had counselling?
I'd honestly just get him out.
Then see what happens.
But he doesn't get to just opt out!
LIFE is NOT like that!
Prick!

Not quite the same as we weren't married but I moved out of the flat I shared with DP for a year and our relationship is almost perfect now (I moved back in after a year)

If the only way to stop him shouting and getting stressed is him moving out doesn’t bode well.

Thank you for your kind messages.

He said he's under a lot of pressure at work and was really shocked, upset and disappointed to hear he's upset us so much.

He said he'd try and be better. I told him he must absolutely do better (trying is not good enough) because I refuse to live that way. He's going to call a support line for depression and see about anti-depressants/counselling.

I've made us a timetable to split the chores equally, including lie-ins for us both, time with our friends for each of us and time where tv/phones are not allowed for family time together.

I hope it'll work. Hopefully we just got lost as a new family and forgot to function together to be happy. We've agreed to work together as a team to save our marriage and family.

And I'm reassured knowing I have a back up plan if it doesn't work.

Well done OP.
So glad you managed to talk it through.
Hopefully he will step up.
But you have your back-up plan if not.
Good luck!

Thank you 👍