When would you come off/delete dating app?

[sunshiney78]

When you’ve started to date someone? Second date? Fifth date? After physically intimate? Specifically having the “exclusivity” chat?

Depends really...

I stopped using it after afew days talking to my now fiance as i was just interested in him....

Deleted it after we had gone "official"

When you’ve both agreed you aren’t looking for anyone else and want to delete the app.

It’s fine for one of you to delete it before then if you’ve lost interest in looking for anyone else but you shouldn’t expect the other person to have done so or give them a hard time for not having done so until it’s actually talked about.

The reason I ask is it’s a bit off putting to see someone I’ve been on a second date with, online. Although I suppose he’s within his rights and probably wondering the same of me!

You're still on the dating app though? I think you need way more than 2 dates before deciding to delete your profile.

Either when you sleep together (provided that's a fair few dates in) or when you have the 'we're official' chat. I'd expect...at least four or five dates in maybe.

Can see why you’d feel that way if he’s somebody you think you like. But you’re right - as far as he’s concerned you’re still keeping your options open and so it makes sense for him to do likewise. Also, two dates isn’t anywhere close enough to knowing whether this is going to go anywhere or if you’re even who you each say you are. Date 4 or 5 or 6 could bring a bombshell that means you’re so incompatible that any relationship is impossible; and if one or both of you have stopped even considering other people and deleted apps, that’s just wasted time and opportunities. Don’t invest so heavily so soon. You’re still strangers to each other. Keep seeing each other and see where it goes but there’s nothing wrong with being realistic and open to other things.

I've been doing OLD for the best part of 3yrs.

Was just about to jack it in when I started chatting to a guy who seemed lovely.

After a couple of dates I deleted my profile, not of the belief that I thought what we had going could actually go somewhere... but more so that if it didn't then I wouldn't pursue anything more. I'd had enough of it all and it felt like the right time to have a break.

We're 2.5 months in of dating and I sense things are going awry, on his side rather than mine which is a shame. But I'm not putting up with crap so if it continues I'll call it.

He knows I'm off the app, I told him why and he said he wasn't dating anyone else so we'll see what happens I guess.

I think it's down to the two of you to gauge it and talk about these things. No point trying to progress things if one of you wants to date exclusively and the other wants to multi date.

Nothing wrong with either but you both need to be on the same page

I went on to delete (because I just don’t have the time or energy to keep looking whilst dating), & just quickly checked his before deleting mine.

Hahaha after you’re intimate?! You’re joking, right? I’d keep it up there until he proposes and possibly after. All the men are playing the field.

@SonataDentata don't be a dick

When you feel like it OP?

Just like men, in other words!!

Stop strategising and second guessing someone else’s feelings and intentions.

P.s. the “exclusivity chat”, an American dating import, just ew ...

It’s true. Most men dating online are predators.

Which is represented as some kind of “contract of understanding”, whereas in fact it’s a ruse - it’s simply a “passion killer for the weak“ IMHO!

Don’t be weak. Love, but do what you want.

If you don’t love, the second guessing us just strategising and manipulating. Oh and men will see through it.

Sorry in truth, veritas

After second date (and planning a weekend together) so I just suspended them and put into a folder on my phone. I'm too much of a cynic to delete yet

I stopped looking after the first date. We actually had sex on the first date (I know but I really wanted a shag and I was aware it may not have been followed by a second date) We saw each other next day and I said if we were to continue having sex/dating it was on an exclusive basis which he said he wanted as well. Probably 4 dates in I deleted the app. Not sure I would go back on now if we split up (it has been a couple of months) as I think he was a very very lucky find especially as the first person I met from it!

I deleted it after our second date. We just knew it was right so we deleted our accounts. Three years later it was the best decision.

We deleted after our first date! I've never done that before we but had chatted a lot before we met, spoken on the phone, etc so meeting each other was really just a formality as we knew we really liked each other.
He told me he'd deleted the app after we get home from our first date so I felt happy to do the same. Even if I hadn't, I wouldn't have been looking for anyone else. Three months later and all going well.

I deleted after first week when we had seen each other 4 times the last time being Friday to Monday at his parents' house 😁😁. 15 months on and we are still besotted about each other and virtually living together in both our houses. It just felt very good very early on

I use Pof and my profile is hidden and I trawl thru and message people. I only speak to a few at once so for me I would just stop looking at some point rather than turn it off

Jane1978xx I have a hidden profile and do the same!

My dh deleted his account after our first date as he knew I was "the one" it was very romantic bless him but it deleted all our convos on my account which I'd have liked to have kept for sentimental reasons 🙈 I don't think there's a hard and fast rule as every relationship is different, it's more about the feelings for the other person than a set time or "base" you've reached. Having said that if you've gone a long way into the relationship and are still online it might be a clue to listen to that you don't feel fulfilled or 100% on the new partner.

Not for a good while. Keep dating even just for coffee. It helps prevent you from throwing all your eggs in the basket too soon.

@MarianaMoatedGrange it works better for me otherwise I get a huge amount of messages and not off anyone who interests me. I’ll have a few I talk to then I replace them if it drifts off or I meet people and I don’t click. I tell men this that I found them 😂 and it seems to go down well. I’m not one Of these let men chase me people.