He swept me off my feet, gave the impression of being 'solid' and 'sorted', running his own business which i really admired. He chased me, hard. Whirlwind romance, i was CONVINCED it was forever. I threw everything in. I helped with his business, worked elsewhere and put cash into his business, gave him children, did ALL housework and home ed of children, even bought and ran the vehicles we used.
He meanwhile did....barely anything. He ran his biz, but never made enough money. He actually was brazen enough to lie in bed til 10am when i was up at 5am on winter mornings, going to work part time with a breastfed baby so we'd get by. He foisted off childcare on his mother (which she then blamed me for). He has no shame. Eventually, i cracked under the pressure, my health suffered through sheer exhaustion. I spent years BEGGING him to help, to DO something. Nada.
We split, i suggested it and he easily agreed (which hurt) and due to his clever business set up, i walked away from my entire marriage and career with only my ancient banger of a car.
7 months after we split, he changes his mind and suddenly im the only one for him etc etc. I was having none of it oc. He persisted with the idea for a further 17 months. 6 WEEKS ago he was still professing undying love to me. Now, he has a new woman all of a sudden. Lol! So i said that was bullshit then and he swears not.
Then, i happened to read a convo he had with her about me because he left our daughter chatting to someone on his messenger, then chatted to his woman on his phone so it flashed up on our screen! He wasnt exactly respectful shall we say and he proved his own bullshit!
Today i go to his house to look after our DD while he goes on a date (im still homeless due to how hard he's SHAFTED me). The place is spotless!? Ive NEVER in all the time i knew him, a decade, kniwn him clean so extensively or thoroughly. I used to beg him to clean :( he claims this is pure coincidence and nothing to do with new woman. I feel like i got another stab in the gut. He's STILL claiming he loved me...but he only does what i asked years after we split, when he meets someone new??? 
it makes me sad i cant even think 'well, at least we loved each other and it was a real relationship at the time'. I have to come to terms with the fact that nope, he's a stone cold user and never respected me :(
He said he'd be back from his date at 4. It's nearly 7. No word. Now, i have a bf and sometimes we over-run, but i ask/tell exDH if its going to impact him or childcare. I feel like this really sucks and i dont know how im supposed to co-parent with this guy for the forseeable????!
Thanks for reading 