My husband and I had an argument yesterday. I’m finding it hard to explain without revealing identifying info, but I felt a rather feckless relative was not treating him well, which he did agree with, but the situation has now been resolved, so DH is feeling better about it. I am still upset and annoyed by the relatives behaviour towards my husband and expressed as much to close friends in front of DH. This in turn led to DH privately telling me that he felt that the only reason that I felt these feelings towards the relative is because there is money involved.
I am devastated that he thinks that is how I work. When I told him this morning he said a half hearted sorry. I didn’t think that cut it, and tbh I’m not sure what he can say to make me feel better about saying that about me anyway. Because I didn’t accept the apology he is now doubling down and has repeated his idea that the only reason I am upset is because there is money involved in this situation.
This has got me thinking about other things he says in a “joking” manner about me that I actually wonder if he might truly believe. He says I gaslight him. He says I don’t appreciate him. He says I say hurtful things about his family.
He has gone to lunch with the kids to his parents. I was supposed to go but I realised how uncomfortable it was going to be. I am scared this is going to be a major issue for us and I don’t know what to do.
I’m sorry that was weird and rambly. I have no one to talk to. I don’t know what to do.