I'm not a mother so hope I can post here, if not, sorry....
P.S long post
I'm 30 years old and was born with Spina Bifida, still live with my parents as the house has the adaptations I need but on the housing list for a adapted property as I want more independence and privacy.
Issue I'm facing is my dad being creepy/inappropriate. I've been with my boyfriend for a while and he stayed over Friday night. We were watching TV and my bf asks if I fancied a early night, I said yes and told my parents we were going to bed, mum said good night, dad was more fixated on the TV so said nothing. Their both in their mid 50's.
So we head upstairs, close my door and we get down to making love, this was 11PM at night and parents head to bed around 1AM on Fridays or so I thought this time.....
In no way are we a noisy couple as we have respect for other people in the house, at around 11:30pm I happened to look in direction of my door and saw someone moving around between where the door attaches to the wall and then heard my dad cough and go to bed. I panicked and we stopped. My bf tells me not to worry too much and that he probably just heard heavy breathing since I wasn't far off from a orgasm. So I eventually relaxed, cuddled up and went to sleep.
Saturday is where the sh*t hits the fan. My mum said nothing so she obviously heard nothing or was a adult about it and simply ignored. Dad comes down stairs and smirked at me which triggered my temper as I was already anxious and embarrassed and jumped down his throat asking why he was being a weirdo and lurking around my door, apparently my mother didn't know he did this and MADE him apologise, which wasn't a genuine one btw.
But it made me feel ashamed for simply enjoying something with someone I love and trust and being disabled I already have awful self esteem issues and my current bf loves me for me.
This isn't first time he's done this, there's been times even when we aren't having sex and just going to sleep, he's barged into my room without asking first to get something and seems surprised I get mad.
I talked to a friend about it and her opinion was maybe being disabled, maybe he can't grasp or accept that his daughter is sexually active as I know SOME parents of disabled children seem to have this assumption we're asexual and don't have needs and desires.
So does anyone think this out of protective behaviour or something more. I'm too embarrassed to fully confront my dad over this and I got so upset to a point I told my bf that maybe we shouldn't have sex until I get offered a place, he seemed a bit annoyed and said why should I (me) deprive myself of a sex life because of someone's behaviour.