Separated . Each new relationship .only started after we ended. Rubbish?

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My exh told
Me it was over at the end and f August .said he didn't love me anymore and would agree to counselling etc. He had checked out many months before. Late nights/ early morning at work, hiding money, angrier and more impatiens worth he children and me. Essentially absent both physically and mentally. He told me last night that he is in a relationship with a woman for the last couple of months . He says it was after we finished . Is this bullshit? It is only next weekend that we will finally move away from him .i just feel numb

That title should read exh not each sorry

Anybody??

You may well be unable to find out the truth but either way, it doesn't sound like he was much cop as a husband. Are you actually divorced yet? If not, this still counts as adultery if you want to file on those grounds. Try not to dwell on it too much and use your energy to move forward with your life 💐

Sounds like bullshit but the end result is the same. Try not to dwell on his behaviour.

Yeah it's rubbish. He quite obviously was cheating with and left for her. He won't admit it though and will try to rewrite history to blame you and exonerate himself. Be clear of the truth in your own mind and refuse to allow him to slate you to family and mutual friends.

Be wary about finances and any promises he's made - the cheating leavers don't tend to keep these promises as they have a Shiny New Team now.

See a good family solicitor to get an idea of your entitlements. Don't, under any circumstances, allow him to change the childcare arrangements to 50/50 if this was not the arrangement before separation. Any sudden change will be unsettling for the kids AND he will be doing it only to reduce maintenance and divorce settlement. These sudden changes have a habit of reverting - after financial settlement - to Mum shouldering most of the care, work and cost in the long term.

He will have been cheating, he’s followed the script! My STBXH did the same. Told me he didn’t love me anymore, moved out, except I then discovered his affair before his “surprise I have a new gf now!” announcement and admitted he was just trying to “phase me out” gently
You WILL move on from this, it just takes time. Sort out the practicalities so they’re not looming over you and see a good solicitor to do this.

I just can't believe it . I went psycho on him in a calm way . He's been a shite dad and a shite husband anyway . She also knows that he is married with kids one of whom has special
Needs . Can't believe this

Does he need to tell our teenage daughter in case she hears it from friends or sees him with her ?chances are slow m that she'll see them but I'm wondering should he?

You don't have any proof that he was cheating, the opinions of anyone on here are irrelevant, they don't know anything about you or your ex.

It would be better for your husband to tell your daughter before she finds out from someone else.

Thanks. I don't
Want My children exposed
To this and damaged any further Amd I also expect he will not honour his parenting commitments either . I'm wondering my f he should he take the risk and not tell her what rnwill the fall out be terrible