I have no friends

[NoFriends1012]

I'm crying in my bed on a Saturday night at 23 years old.
I'm really lonely.
I have a boyfriend but he's out drinking with his friends.
My best friend never wants to do anything - she's always with her boyfriend and never wants to go out clubbing.
My other friend lives 50 minutes away so we only meet up occassionally.

I've been invited to a house get together next saturday by an old school friend so im thinking of going to that but im a bit nervous since i dont really know anyone there and im a bit shy but im hoping this might be a way to expand my social circle.

Only problem is my boyfriend have said his family have a meal next saturday so im thinking whether to ask the girl if we can meet up for food on next sunday because of the meal. Only problem is i has to cancel last time due to work commitments,

I just want friends. Im so bored

We all have times like this, make a list of things that interest you and join a group. You don’t have to be good at the activity just give it a try. Even if you are shy still try to go, if you can’t think of what to say- just ask someone about their day/week- lots of people like to chat - those friendships will come - best wishes

So you have two friends, a boyfriend, a party invite and an invite to your partners family dinner. Ffs sorry, finding it hard to feel sorry for you. Seems like you're doing a good enough job of that for yourself xD first world problems much lol.

Take every social opportunity you can. When you get to thirty there may be no more parties to meet new friends at.

Get a hobby. The hobby will relieve boredom and cause you to make new friends.

It's no fun being lonely. You should accept every social invitation you can. It's hard when you're shy to make new friends but by going you will be able to build confidence in yourself.

Go to the party. Presumably the party invitation was first. It's not wise to always put what your bf wants ahead of your own social networking. You've already cancelled on this woman once.

Volunteer with the guides!

Younger leaders are always welcomed!
Weekends away, meet ups, it's very rewarding!

Go to the party next weekend - not the boyfriends family meal.

Go to the party! Never choose a BF family thing over and above a social friends party! You need to expand your social circle. Go and have fun. Start joining groups in your area. Look at the website calied meetup and join things like book club, netball, salsa in your area. Aim to join at least 3 things per week. Often classes like salsa, Zumba and Lindy hop have socials on a Saturday. If things don’t improve in a few months join a community orchestra or choir or get a part time job in the local pub.

Well, it sounds like you do have friends, it's just that they're busy tonight.
Best thing is to develop some interests of your own, not just to make friends (although I'm sure these will come along in their own good time) but to fill in the gaps when your other friends are busy.
Make a list of things you like or things you'd love to do and go out and make them happen. Join a club, or a class where you can do the things you enjoy.
Also, assuming you had the party invite first and you've accepted, please don't blow your friend off in favour of your boyfriend. You've made a commitment to go to the party and whilst you fear there may be no one you know there, you might meet someone who turns out to be a really good friend in the future. If you don't get out there, you'll never meet new people who might become friends.

I'm 24 and had times where I felt like this a year or so ago. I think we all go through phases where we're really busy loving being a social butterfly but other times you just want to stay in most of the time. My boyfriend used to go out and rather than look for plans of my own, I'd stay in by myself and convinced myself I was happy to do that because of my anxiety. I've since learned that it's healthy to get yourself out and about as much as you can and have a happy balance.

I'd definitely go to this party next weekend, I expect a family meal will be earlier on in the evening so you could just go for that and then head to the party afterwards? You'd already be dressed up for the meal anyway. Doesn't matter if your a bit late to the party, better than not going at all and blowing off your friend twice xx