Did he cheat ? STI

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I have been with someone for a couple of years, and he is the only person I have slept with. Recently went to the family planning clinic to get my contraceptive injection, and they offered me a chlyamydia test (probably spelt wrong). I initially declined as I was fairly (naively certain) I wouldn't have it.
However they were insistent, and so I had one. To my horror, it came back a week later saying I did have it.
I have only slept with one person and never had sexual contact with anyone else.
He was asked to go in for testing and he told me that he didn't have it from the results.
How could it be possible that I had it, if he doesn't, where would I have got it from ?
Unless he cheated, gave it to me then lied about not having it ? Its honestly a mystery.

Could he have had it before you two got together? Maybe he's lying about not having it because he's embarrassed about giving it to you. If you have only ever slept with him it clearly has come from him but doesn't necessarily mean he's cheated. It can lay dormant for years. He shouldn't be lying to you about having it though.

My mate cheated on her boyfriend on holiday and he was so disgusted. He is (rightly) extremely against it. He does drink and go out a lot but he seems to be crazyy about me, and I could not imagine him at all doing something like that.

You must have caught it from him. The test that came back positive won’t tell you how long you have had it. Did he get checked before you started sleeping together? Was he clear at the start?

He could have had it for a couple of years (ie since before you) without knowing. It is often symptomless.

However, if he lied about having it, or about getting tested, that doesn’t look good.

I don’t think you could have got it anywhere else, it is sexually transmitted.

That must be it, he did sleep with 1 or 2 people before we got together. True, it must be that and he shouldnt lie, even if he's embarrassed.

This will teach me in the future to get checked early !

It's possible he had it and knew he had it, and gave it to you. He then may have been treated. If he's the only person you've been with then it can only have come from him. If he has been treated, then his results will come back negative.

It's awful, quite a serious thing to lie about. Why are people dishonest to save their own skin 😕

I got a text from a guy I’d slept with telling me I needed to get tested as he thought he’d caught a specific infection from me.

I had no symptoms at all, went and got tested anyway and actually had a different sti.

I have never been able to get my head around it.

@dumptyhumpty101 that's crazy. It's scary how they can lie dormant for years with no symptoms.

@Dumptyhumpty101 infections don't always jump to the other side at the first chance. Even the mega contagious ones. Although they're obviously more likely. I guess it's like if someone sneezes on you there's a high chance you'll catch the cold but not always! So maybe you had the infection and didn't pass it to him and vice versa?

He might not have known but have received antibiotics for another reason which also cleared it up?

I work in sexual health. Have you actually seen his results? If you’ve never been with anyone else, you got it from him. It’s possible he knew that, got tested and treated but didn’t tell you. But if you have had it for years and don’t use condoms, it’s highly unlikely he wouldn’t get re-infected from you, even if he’d been treated. If his results are negative, I think it points more to a recent infection that was treated recently and you haven’t infected him since, if that makes sense.

Either way it points to some serious dishonesty and disregard for your health. He either lied to you about the STI or he’s cheated.