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When to finish it for good, what would you do?

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MummyofB89 · 22/11/2019 09:30

I broke up with my partner at the beginning of the year, he was/is a lazy, selfish man child who called our at the time 2 month old DD a little shit even after I had asked him not to everyday for those two months. I also found out he had sexted a colleague from his work back in 2017. We had therapy sessions of him basically blaming my pnd for my want to split needless to say I left, moved back to my hometown with my support.

Somehow through his contact time with DD he has got me to agree to try again, we are still living apart currently. I really want to finish it once and for all but we are due to go to his flat tomorrow to stay one night to them see his parents on Sunday as the haven't seen (haven't bothered to see) DD since July. Now I'm unsure if I should just end things today or go to his parents on Sunday so they all have a nice time with the stbxp in a good mood etc. Looking for any advice on what you would personally do? Also I'm definitely wanting to end it, so no need for advice on that.

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Bluntness100 · 22/11/2019 09:33

Just end it. You don't need permission. I don't understand rhe dilemma. Just tell him it's not working for you and end it.

Shodan · 22/11/2019 09:35

I think I'd just end it tonight tbh. Staying the night and then going to see his parents is just perpetuating the lie that you're together and a happy family unit.

Tell him you've changed your mind. He can sort out contact between his parents and your DD another time.

MummyofB89 · 22/11/2019 09:42

@Bluntness100, it's not a question of will I, I'm definitely going to end it. Just whether or not to leave it a few days.

@shodan, thanks for this.

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