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Original poster

International dialling tone. Suspicious of oh.

28 replies

Lanabanana678 · 21/11/2019 21:24

Hey everyone,
I’ve namechanged for this.
My boyfriend is away on business in another country, Spain to be exact.
He wouldn’t let me drop him off to the airport saying it was fine he would get a cab. He’s been away for a few days and always been him calling me. However today I went to call him and it was a UK dialling tone and not an internal one...

I just wanted to double check that if he were actually abroad there would be a different dialling tone to normal.

OP posts:
LemonTT · 21/11/2019 21:29

Not necessarily, it can be either. I think it sounds normal if he is connected to WiFi.

Original poster
Lanabanana678 · 21/11/2019 21:29

International that should say. Not internal! Lol

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TheWickerWoman · 21/11/2019 21:36

Wouldn’t he be sending you photos of the hotel/local sights etc?

DonPablo · 21/11/2019 21:37

De ja vu

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Lanabanana678 · 21/11/2019 21:39

@thewickerwoman, no no pictures of the room/ local sights. As he’s away on business I wouldn’t expect him to be doing much sightseeing. He’s only out there for 6days in total

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Original poster
Lanabanana678 · 21/11/2019 21:40

@DonPablo Oo please do explain..

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TheWickerWoman · 21/11/2019 21:42

Could you ask him, I mean just make it sound like you’re interested in what his accommodation is like?

That’s something I would do though so I suppose if you don’t usually ask for that then it would make him suspicious of you asking.

cocoabasher · 21/11/2019 21:44

Exact thread last week except it was a friend not a boyfriend.

It can happen.

Minionmomma · 21/11/2019 21:51

FaceTime him

WhoKnewBeefStew · 21/11/2019 21:54

If you dial using internet it has a different ring tone anyway. If you are dialling him as normal and he's abroad, I'd expect an international ring tone, not a UK one.

Elieza · 21/11/2019 21:55

Phone his office and pretend to be someone else and see what they say. “He’s on leave just now “ or that he’s in a conference abroad.

ItsNovemberNotChristmas · 21/11/2019 21:56

I think it's that poster again

Divebar · 21/11/2019 22:06

I work with guys who travel abroad... I recently called two guys who were abroad together ( they were in the car driving). I rang both phones one after the other and got a foreign dialling code with one and then a UK tone with the other.

Todayisontheup · 21/11/2019 22:06

Hi @Lanabanana678 I make international calls for business every day, and I always get the international tone.

WithTheTide · 21/11/2019 22:21

I couldn’t be arsed to be in a relationship where I felt the need to check up on someone like this, or had suspicions, too much like hard work.

AlwaysCheddar · 22/11/2019 07:25

Ask fir a photo of his hotel room. Or send a photo of your dinner and ask what he’s having.

Longfacenow · 22/11/2019 07:31

Do you think he has a double life? Most of the women whose husbands do have used travel for work as their excuse.

Is there a back story making you worried? I hope you get enough out of the relationship to live with this stress; must be so upsetting to have these doubts.

Can you call work and find out?

Longfacenow · 22/11/2019 07:32

The bottom line is he could be sharing his hotel room with someone else anyway. We have nothing without trust.

Has he earnt yours OP?

fedup21 · 22/11/2019 07:37

I’d ring him and say it was funny there was no international dialling tone! I’d laugh and say-you’re not holed in x hotel up the road leading a double life with a fit 21 year old, are you?

And the see what he said.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 22/11/2019 07:43

Ask fir a photo of his hotel room. Or send a photo of your dinner and ask what he’s having

I used to have a male friend (note the word 'used to') who would take photos of random meals, google the menu of the hotel he was 'supposed' to be staying at, and take photos of himself in different hotel rooms (he would work away all the time), for such occasions that his gf would ask for the above. The level of deceit some people will go to us overwhelmingConfused

AWaspOnAWindowReturns · 22/11/2019 07:45

Are you the same poster who started a thread about your "friend" a couple of days ago?

loutypips · 22/11/2019 07:49

Years ago there always used to be an international dialling tone, now, it doesn't seem to be the same, especially on mobiles.

But seems that there's bigger problems here... lack of trust in a relationship isn't good.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 22/11/2019 07:50

I've called the Netherlands and got a UK tone before, and I've called a UK phone that's been in the Netherlands and got an international dialling tone on one occasion then UK dialling tone the next.

Fmlgirl · 22/11/2019 09:02

I go away for business a lot. It’s not always possible due to client commitments but I do go out in the evenings and do stuff by myself and try to at least enjoy the local food. I was in Brazil for 4 days earlier this month and definitely did take lots of pics that I sent to people.

Mrsmummy90 · 22/11/2019 09:42

Not sure about dialling tones but I would offer to pick him up at the airport