Limerence affairs and cheating

[Teenagekicks2]

I was reading a couple of threads regarding affairs and cheating.

A few years ago, I was there and cheating DH with one of his friends. Even it was an online platonic love it has taken severe consequences in our lives.

One article helped me to understand and put some order on my thoughts and in what I was feeling. He was manipulating me and I was completely addicted. Couldn't live a day without him and fantasising what a perfect life being together and it was all fantasy. Don't follow my example and don't be emotionally controlled by them.

loverelations.co.uk/the-limerence-affair/

I have only ever heard of limerence on MN and to be honest it seemed like a weasely pseudo scientific condition that could be rolled out as an excuse for some pretty shite behaviour.

"I just could not help myself, I was suffering from limerence, I know what I did was not right but I had lost all control"

THIS

Quote from the link above:

Advice for the Betrayed
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The person in limerence is confused and not acting with any real rational thought. They are being controlled by their emotions and are acting from a young impulsive part of themselves. There are several strategies that may help you and with time, perhaps help your partner to see you are a better option to rebuild a relationship with.

GTFO.

Sounds a bit like when I was 12 and thought I would die if I didn't marry Midge Ure!

😂

I agree that 'limerence' is a load of bolleaux.

Sounds a bit like when I was 12 and thought I would die if I didn't marry Midge Ure

Very good, although in my case it was Colonel Wilma Deering from Buck Rogers