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New relationship

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Lainy1965 · 20/11/2019 17:21

New here! Very new relationship after 7 years in the desert. The “lust” has kicked in big time & from research there are already signs of the “love” traits. Feeling confused any help would be so welcome!

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StripeyTopRedLips · 20/11/2019 17:22

I’m actually confused about what you’re confused about, and what you want help with!

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Lainy1965 · 20/11/2019 17:26

I don’t want to get this one wrong! I feel like I have forgotten how to have a relationship

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PollyFeather · 20/11/2019 17:29

I'd maybe stop googling and stop thinking about love traits, whatever they are

Just go with the flow, don't be smothering, don't put your life on hold elsewhere and don't overanalyse. You should then be set up to just enjoy it

Stillsexystillsingle · 21/11/2019 05:52

Hi and first off congratulations on finding someone you're excited about being with and can possibly see a future with Smile to those who can't relate I can I've been on my own for three years , by choice, spending far too much time fending off narcissists and others whose only agenda is to take advantage of you, use you and throw you away, in the world we live in and the kinds of men we are having to deal with nowadays it is easy to forget how to have a real relationship with a man who actually just wants to love you and be loved by you without any other kind of agenda, it's a rare thing indeed! I hope you have found one, time will tell, give it time, relax and enjoy being loved by him , if he's faking he won't be able to keep it up for long without revealing his true colours, if he's genuine there will come a day when you will know without a doubt that this is a man who genuinely loves you and you'll be able to forget about dating anyone else and focus all of your attention on him Smile good luck and keep us posted!

UnaCorda · 21/11/2019 07:04

From research?? Confused

MsRomanoff · 21/11/2019 07:06

Research has told you that live feelings are building?

If you dont want mess this up, you need to relax.

Enjoy the feeling of a new relationship. Be yourself. If being yourself messes it up, it's not meant to be.

All the research in the world can tell you wether this will turn into a long term love. Let that come in it's own time. All this stressing about wether ita turning into love, whether it will be long term, how mot to mess it up, is likely more likely to mess it up.

OhioOhioOhio · 21/11/2019 07:08

I get it.

Well done you.

Id try and take a casual step back. Not in a mean way. Just don't relinquish control just yet.

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