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Ending Marriage after 15 years

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GwenMalone · 20/11/2019 14:23

Hi, I am very emotional as I have decided that I should end my marriage. I have been married for 15 years and am not a priority to my DH. We have one child who will be devastated and it is for this reason that i don't know if I am doing the right thing. I have a good job and could get a property by myself with two bedrooms so from a financial perspective could cope. i do love my DH but he just treats me with indifference. He can be very manipulative in that he will decide in his mind what he wants and then gets it through manipulation. I find it very difficult to trust him to have a direct and honest conversation as he will tell me what I want to hear. His mother is extremely rude to me and he just tells me that's just the way she is. He has never stood up for me. He doesn't really initiate sex much and we don't have a very active sex life ( maybe once a month). He tends to get a laugh out of making fun of me. My main issue is actually the way his mother treats me as I think she does it because she can because she knows that she and not I are his priority. Should I end it for this reason. I am not happy. My DH thinks that because he is not a druggie or doesn't hit me that I am being dramatic. He will talk about men having affairs or gambling and that he doesn't do that. He spends his free time with my son and I, what more do I want? but I just feel neglected. I am not worried about being alone because I am alone already. Has anyone gone through this where they have decided to end the marriage despite no Affair/Abuse/Gambling or other major issue. I do care about my DH and would still want to be friends with him. i just don't want to be married to him any longer.

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Unknown199318 · 20/11/2019 21:46

If you are not happy and have expressed this to him and still nothing has changed then you should leave. It will hurt like hell but eventually you’ll see this is the right decision!

My ex partner was similar to your DH in the way he believed he was a good partner as he didn’t cheat on me, didn’t hit me and wasn’t out at all hours doing drugs ect. I came to realise this does NOT make someone a good partner. He should have respect for you and care for you. He’s lazy and is doing to bare minimum to keep you there!

You aren’t supposed to be in a relationship/marriage and feel alone.

Everyone deserves to be happy. Leave him and find your happiness

Sending love Flowers

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