Ending it via text

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Hello, can't talk to people in real life at the moment so would love your thoughts. I have dated C four times - he was a bit put out as we couldn't chat last night as I was with my kids, he also said I was hard work in bed ....

Anyhow meant to see him Friday but on reflection I think not. So ok to text him or should I phone? Cheers!

Text him. You owe him nothing. Sounds like a knob!

Thank you! Sometimes ... well often I seem to question what type of behaviour is appropriate.

Hard work in bed? Bin him

Anyone said I was "hard work in bed", I would not give them the time of day or night ever again. What sort of jackass says this? And after only 4 dates? Ok, fine to sleep with someone straight away, but to criticise like that? And then expect to come back for more? AND annoyed when you are putting your children first?

WTAF OP?

Sounds like a potential abuser... already is pushing your boundaries by telling you that you're crap in bed and need to put him before your children and NOW will be the acid test, because if you DO see him again, he will know he has someone he can be horrible to and that you will accept it.

Tell him you don't think you are compatible and leave it at that. I can bet you 50 quid he will be REALLY pissed off and will try all sorts of tactics to keep coming back. Nice then he will insult you again to try and make you feel worthless.

God these men, who the feck do they think they ARE?

Text "Well that is 'hard work' that you won't be doing anymore as you are sacked. Bye!"

He sounds horrible. Send him princessmittens' text ^^

Thank you again. What the hell is wrong with me .... why couldn't I see this myself. Thread about my boyfriend in summer who said he wouldn't be unfaithful to me as he wouldn't get drunk. Wasn't sure if dumping him was the right thing! MN soon put me right.

So should I tell him why? Maybe he doesn't realise his behaviour isn't acceptable?

He knows his behaviour is shit. Come on OP, can you even IMAGINE saying that to someone?

I doubted myself like you and made excuses for a man who said stuff like this... or worse. They KNOW what they are doing.

Imagine telling a new man he was hard work in bed. No way? You have your answer.

It is a tactic of a nasty, abusive person. Believe me.

He is an adult. No, he does not need to be taught basic manners!!

"What the hell is wrong with me .... why couldn't I see this myself."

Possibly a touch or more of co-dependency. You sound as if you try to rationalise bad behaviour and make too many excuses for others. You probably lack healthy boundaries and self-respect. Sometimes this comes from our upbringing.

So should I tell him why? Maybe he doesn't realise his behaviour isn't acceptable?

I’d text him that you’re done and block him. You owe him nothing

Text sent. Thanks again ...

Good for you. You've done the right thing!

Well done OP. I remember your previous thread. Seems as if your self esteem and standards are on the up!