Adult siblings relationship with golden child

[thesparrowflieshigh]

DH has has a rocky relationship with his 2 DSis over the years but is now very close to younger DSis and her family. Older DSis is the golden child and her family are the only ones MIL cares about. DH is no longer bothered by this and has moved on and very happy and fulfilled with minimum contact with his mum. Older Dsis has always been staunch defender of their mum and sees her in a very different way to DH and younger sister. However very recently she seems to be coming round and agreeing more with them although she still has a on the surface good relationship with her mum, leaves her dc with her mum etc. DH has always kept his older dsis at arms length but is now confused. Any experience with this would be helpful.

He can have a relationship with his sister without having one with his mom.

He does have a relationship of his younger sister, but his older sister has always been on her mums side until recently so he is unsure of what is going on.

Hi Sparrow, perhaps the divisions in the family are starting to tell on the golden child and she is seeing your DH's mother in a more realistic light. My mother has played the divide and conquer game with her three children all our lives resulting in the three of us estranged from each other and two of us from her. My golden child brother contacted me out the blue recently wanting to meet up. I suspect the onus of giving her 100% attention has started to get too much and he wants to draw me back in. No chance!