Why is sex that important relationships can’t survive without it

[FabbyChix]

I used to think sex was what you used to make a man stay and fall In love what you did to keep a man. I then met someone who was the person I could retire with. Being able to sit in a room hours content without having to talk. He never talked rude never made a pass. Told me can’t offer anything day one. Sex was shit. He lacked yearS or stuff only knew how to have drunk one night sex. I realised we didn’t need it. Sex is for all people about need it don’t matter who really it’s sex to appease a need to come. People moan they don’t get it you want to come it don’t matter who no one should
Have sex because their partner wantS it. Sex is about showing love making your partner come not you. Your having sex out of need and using your partner to come. Sex comes last. I want sex to show love.if your relationships can’t survive without sex you don’t have anything. Sex isn’t the basis for a relationship. When he demands sex say no. Love is real when it’s all you need.

Sick of sex being that important it isn’t

Yeah. You said in your other thread about it in the sex topic. And on other peoples threads in the sex topic.

If it works for you, fine. But sex is fun and it feels good and people enjoy it.

I have relationships without sex all the time. Called friendships.

Not sure why we’d need to live your life, with your preferences?

Do think we might all just carry on with our sex lives (rampant, celibate and in-between) in the ways that suit us best?

You don’t need or want sex? Go for it. Personal epiphanies are wonderful. But you’d be crazy to think it’d suit everyone.

I could never eat another piece of cake as long as I live, and never regret or crave it for one moment. I don’t preach to other people about cutting out cake though. What would be the point?

Each to their own. But don't preach. It's a free world.
Enjoy it in whatever way you prefer.

We should all not need or want sex because @FabbyChix says so.
She's obviously a very wise person.

I think she is repressed on some level but at least she has happily come to terms convinced herself with it.

But trying to convince others smacks a little of grandstanding. Perhaps she needs others' support to further embed the thought in her head.

Surely if you don’t have sex then you are just friends.

As humans we tend to make it a lot more than what it actually is.

It's natures way of encouraging us to reproduce.

Remove all the sex hormones, people wouldn't care about it much at all.
Out of curiosity, I read people's experiences of castration(male/female)

So you realised that you don't need sex in your relationship because

Sex was shit. He lacked yearS or stuff only knew how to have drunk one night sex

In other words, he isn't any good at sex, so you decided to go without . Others might have decided to do a little "on site education" to show him how to do it more effectively, but hey, your relationship, your decision.

But.... we have all the hormones...

And, females orgasm, which is not necessary for reproduction..

And, due to our evolution our offspring are born under developed and need looking after for many years, so a couple being bonded is an advantage

Sex becomes an issue in a relationship if there are unmatched sex drives. It looks as though you have matched sex drives (unless something going on that you don't realise) so all good for you.

As an aside, you should work on your writing. I found the original post hard to understand.