How to make him leave

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I want to end my marriage. I have felt like this for a long time. 'D'H knows this.

We have talked and talked but as far as I am concerned we have reached the end of the road. 'D'H does not feel like this.

How do I make him understand it's really over and he needs to go whilst trying to preserve the possibility of being amicable? It's not a question of me going - I own the house and he can't afford to live here. He has matrimonial rights so I can't just change the locks and nor do I want to. I want him to understand that I mean what I say about our relationship being over but that I want us to co-parent and try and be friendly for the sake of the DC, but to understand that he has to react to the situation instead of pretending it's fixable when it's not.

I'd be happy to help him find somewhere to live and organise everything, I just need to get through to him, ideally without it being super unpleasant.

You don’t own the house you both do. You leave tell him your off for a few days and when you come back you want him gone. No good saying stuff show him. You might want to consider the cost of buying him out

Start divorce proceedings. Start the process to buy him out. Make it official.

He doesn’t have to leave. You both own the house. Can you afford to eventually buy him out?

Agree with others

You’ll need to start divorce proceedings in order to work out financial split

The house may be in your name but it’s a marital asset to which he has a claim

Thanks.
I always assumed divorce followed someone moving out.
Yes I can afford to buy him out for the value of any financial award he might receive. The logistics of separating our lives financially are not problematic.
It's more his emotional refusal to acknowledge what is happening.

Yes it's a marital asset but that doesn't mean he can afford to live there on his own. He needs to leave and she needs to buy him out.
OP you need to be the stuck record. Don't get into discussion about it, just keep repeating when he brings it up.

Maybe start suggesting to change your wills, life insurance policies, mention things like it have seen a 2 bed house for rent which could be of interest for you’

He’s probably struggling to take it in and accept if he doesn’t feel like it’s over and it can be saved. Maybe he’s just hoping that things will iron themselves out and you won’t have to split. If it’s what you want and speaking to him hasn’t worked then you need to show him.

He needs to leave and she needs to buy him out.

It a bit chicken and egg though. He doesnt have to move put to be bought out. He will need to move out in the future.

OP start divorce proceedings. Then sort out the financial award. Maybe then he will see it's done and move out of his own accord.

If you want to end your marriage, go see a solicitor and start proceedings.

As to the home, it’s jointly owned and both of you can live there. If you want to live separately and he won’t move then it may be up to you. He probably won’t move out because financially it is not advised.

Just do things properly via a solicitor and mediation. Your current approach is high handed. Unfortunately you don’t hold all the cards.