How ?

[SueDoeName]

How do you get over the end of a relationship with the person you thought was the one ?
I can't seem to move on and just find myself hoping partner will change their mind .
We still see each other "as friends " I'm pathetically grateful. But I can't get over this and I'm constantly sad , crying, it's been a few months but I'm no further forward. I've been off work weeks. I'm scared and lonely.
I've never experienced heartbreak before. I dont know how to deal with it . Im late 40s so I'm resigned to being alone now . I don't know how to be happy alone .

‘The one‘ is a myth in reality. It takes time to get over the end of a relationship. You cant be friends that will cause you more heartache. It is hard but i’d advise getting back to work asap - it will give you a sense of normality. Keep busy - work off your heartache with exercise. Arrange to see friends and do stuff you enjoy that makes you feel good. It will get better.

I dont think you should resign yourself to being alone in your 40’s

If you still see each other as “friends” its like picking at a scab - you will not heal as you are really hoping for them to have a change in heart. I know its painful but you must end the contact otherwise you’ll be stuck and wont move forward

I know how you feel. 6 months on and cry every day still.
Would give anything I have to turn back time.
Future seems v v bleak.

Please try to think of the other things in your life that are positive. It could be a good friend, health or a hobby you enjoy/thing you look forward to doing. I agree that you shouldnt see your ex for at least a while as the "friend" stage is draggimg the pain out for you. It will get better. It might take a while, but it will. X