Something my mum told me has angered me, I know I'm being irrational but it's wound me up

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A couple of weeks I was talking to my mum, and she told me wasn't going to go the funeral of her neighbour as it was at a crematorium, and she didn't like crematoriums. (He has been her negihbour for 35 years)For the same reaosn she refused to go to my aunt or uncles cremations or that of my cousin, who was her godaughter

She then went on to say that my granny (her mum) had been cremated, which I knew, because that was what my granny had wanted. She said that if it had been up to her she would have been buried, and that my grandad had wanted cremated and his ashes scattered where my granny's were. My mum had Grandad buried though, "because I don't like crematoriums". I had often thought it odd that Grandad was buried on his own, and had wondered why he wasn't cremated, but assumed he had wanted that.
Then, she said that my dad had wanted cramated as well, and a memorial added to the plot where his mum and dad are buried. The plot had room for one more coffin, but room on the headstone for more names.
Again mum had made the decision to have him buried. I admit I like the fact that there is a headstone I can visit and leave flowers (no one else in my family goes, not even my mum)

The reason I'm so worked up about this is that she ignored the wishes of two people, who admittedly were dead, so couldn't argue, but I'm wondering what she would do regarding my wishes if something happened to me, Dh and the Dses.
It's been really playing on my mind recently, and I get a bit annoyed when I think about it - irrational I know

aloha, thats the point of my thread though, she ignored the wishes of my dad and grandad, so if something did happen to DH/ the Dses and me, or even just DH and I, then how do we know our wishes would be taken into consideration?

i never thought about it but since losing someone i want burying and my family know this now,its nice to have somewhere to visit,a lot of people will think wots ypur problem you will be gone ,but it is important,i do hope you can sort this out,

How selfish of her!!!! I'd be flipping mad and haunt the person who went against my die-ing wishes. My parents have left their bodies to medical science. This means no funeral as there will be no bodies. Sometimes I find that hard to think about but it's their final (and noble) wishes. I've checked with them if they'd be happy for us to have a memorial service and to plant a tree with a plaque in their memory and they are fine about it. But I'd never for a minute consider burying them just to make me feel better.

When you write a Will you include anything you currently own or have responsibility for, that includes children, pets, cars and all sorts. You can go into great detail about all of these things. You have to stipulate who should look after your children in the event of your death, for example.

Any answers on whether a verbal contract about your wishes after death is valid in law???