My husband and I separated in May. Problems with jealousy (him) made worse with alcohol. We have one 13 year old at home. My ex is an over dramatic and slightly odd man and it has been emotionally exhausting. It was over a long time ago and I should have acted sooner. Even though the relationship is over, I know he will be awful about any new relationship I have.
The thing is this. With his work, he stays away a night or two a week all over the country. (We have informal joint custody of 13 yo, it is all fine). I know for a fact he has met another woman, 120 miles away and they are having a relationship. I know this as I found a card from her when I was at the house (he'd left it lying around by accident). It said how she had loved the last few weeks together and felt safe in his arms and hoped her future involved the two of them etc etc It definitely wasn't from the bank :-)
Now I am delighted about this. We were never suited and if he has found someone to be happy with, that is brilliant. It also makes life easier for me as his attention will be focussed elsewhere.
He has arranged a few 'work' trips down there, but when I have said (trying to be subtle!), it's okay if you want an extra night to meet up with friends etc he has acted holier than thou and told me how he has no friends in the area and all the trips are purely business etc etc etc.
I assume he is acting virginal to keep some sort of emotional leverage over me. He maintains publicly that we should get back together. It is never going to happen for many good reasons.
Should I just tell him I know and it is all fine by me so we can stop this ridiculous charade?