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Need to rant!!

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Mum2Girls90 · 17/11/2019 18:32

I’m so bloody angry right now.
Angry that I expected anything different.
Angry that I wasted 2 years of my life trying to change the inevitable.

Found out today that my ex is “dating” his child’s mother. We were together a long time, DC’s together. Separated and he had a baby with someone else.
We tried again with added child involved. 2 years down the line our relationship broke down. He left.
Found out today he’s dating his child’s mother. Very sexually motivated. Tries singing sweet nothings in my ear after he was only there last night.
Why do men do this? Think they can have their cake and eat it?!

Before you say it - yes I know I shouldn’t be angry as we split. Yes he’s allowed to see other people.
But the woman that I put myself in the middle of because they couldn’t get along. The woman he so desperately hated and refused to speak to. The mother of the child I spent many weekends looking after when he couldn’t be bothered?!

I feel like I’ve been stabbed in the back by both of them. I don’t know why I expect there to be any loyalty to me. He couldn’t look after his children whilst I went to work but could be dating her and playing happy families.
I won’t even ask if I’m in the wrong for being angry, I’m owning how this feels for me right now. Utter disrespect, blurred lines. Thought I was in fact over him, clearly not!

Aaaaarrgggghhhhhh!!!

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Lozzerbmc · 17/11/2019 19:38

I understand you’re angry but you have to it go... you know their relationship wont last. Think yourself lucky you are shot of him !

Mum2Girls90 · 17/11/2019 20:23

@lozzerbmc
I know. It’s so painful. Our relationship broke down after our family suffered something rather traumatic. To watch him just move on and leave me to pick up parenting on my own is so hard to sit with

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Lozzerbmc · 17/11/2019 21:00

Yes that’s what hurts that he is moving on - hard to let go i know. I had a marriage fail, it just takes time. I think you deserve someone better Flowers

Berrylove · 17/11/2019 21:07

Sounds like he is just trying to keep you both sweet for his benefit. There’s no point being mad at her because she may very well have felt the exact same when he left her and got back with you, just be done with him. You know you deserve better than this, I know it’s difficult starting over and trying to find someone new but it’ll happen, and you’ll wonder why you were ever fussed over him. And then you can have a good old cackle when he’s miserable and wants you back and you’re super happy in love with your new partner 🙃

Mum2Girls90 · 17/11/2019 22:06

Oh yes there’s definitely an agenda on his part. Like I said, sexually motivated.
Sounds as though they’re both playing games with each other.
I worry about my own children, them getting caught up in this drama. His other LO who’s stuck in the middle of them too. Not my problem I know!

I’m well away from the dating scene. Working, uni, 2 kids on my own. No time or brain function for dating lol

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