I have a tough time accepting how my boyfriend always expresses his negative emotions.
Every time he tries to do something and he fails or doesn't succeed right away he gets annoyed and starts criticizing everyone and everything else other than him (and myself). I asked him about it and he was annoyed and said "Well I just express my opinion about something, fine, I'll not say anything anymore". I said that there are several ways of expressing opinion, it doesn't have to be so angry and critical. He said he is not angry when doing it and that he doesn't see he does anything wrong or bad and he doesn't think it is OK to just keep his opinion to himself.
OK, I get that just because he is different doesn't mean he is wrong to do as he pleases. But to me it is annoying and feels rude. Am I too sensitive? Maybe my way is wrong and if I ever had children and teach them my way, I might suppress their feelings and opinions?
An example from last night. I suggested let's try yoga, he agreed, I searched a beginners video and we started. We bot struggled, as it was the first time for both. I tried to follow the teacher, accept that I cannot do these things right so soon and just do what I can and wait for the next exercise. He pretty soon got annoyed and started commenting "It's a shit teacher, it's a shit routine, it's impossible to follow the teacher, she should do this or that" then being crumpy, then trying again some positions, then commenting and being crumpy etc.
Basically - although HE couldn't do these things, in his view the teacher, the routine, the video and all other things were shit.
It's like this with everything he fails to do. And he also expresses all his negative comments when something is not the way he likes, e.g. the food is not as good in a restaurant etc. I would just say that "yeah, the food isn't that good" in a rather neutral tone and that's it. He would be like "what a lame restaurant and the cook is horrible, he cannot even cook a decent meal".
I do not know even what I'm asking. Him explaining me yesterday that he "is just expressing his emotions, what's wrong with that" got me thinking that perhaps I am too sensitive and I am just supressing my negative emotions because if I fail at something etc I do not start expressing it so extensively, I try my best, and if I do not like it I just say that I did not like it, I need something else or whatever. I would perhaps say that I did not feel the teacher was right for me. But I guess it's the tone of voice, his crumpy attitude and the fact that it happens so often is what bothers me.
I get very expressive when talking about something that is really positive or something I really like and stay rather neutral when talking about things I do not like so much. He is the opposite - very expressive with bad things and very neutral with good stuff.
I do not have close male friends-relatives, so I'm also wondering whether it is normal for men to be like this? With my friends and family I have not noticed such criticism towards the world. But they are all female.