I lost it on the phone to my mum and feeling bad. I live abroad and 6 members of my family want to come to visit. About a month ago, they announced they wanted to come two weeks later. I said no, as it was an inconvenient time with work, schools etc. My mother was a real pain about it, saying "we're not coming to see you, but the children"and basically not taking my no. I stood my ground saying we should agree on dates that suit us all.
Well, then she started asking for dates, that suited. One possibility was Easter and before we agreed on final dates, they've booked. Informed in an email. I don't know if I can take time off work, children have school because they booked days before holidays as it's cheaper . Whatever.
She just rang saying she hears DH is stressed because they are coming (things always get twisted so it's his issues, not mine). I lost it, told her we hadn't agreed, fed up of being "shouted at" by her (In losing it, I used the wrong word, nobody shouted at me, just constant nagging about it.)and told her we'd speak another day.
She's just rang back saying,"oh, don't let them shout at you. Call me. Hugs".
I feel bullied!. Do you think I should ignore, or ring and clarify the shouting bit? I'm sure she'll try to blame DH.