I’m in my twenties and my best friend, who I grew up with, told me she felt we had drifted and weren’t right for each other last week. There had been a few minor issues nothing big had happened at all so I was quite shocked by this, as were my and her other friends - we are a group of four and are all so close. We talk on a group chat daily and I love them dearly. I was really hurt by this conclusion she’s come to, we hadn’t even discussed the issues or tried to resolve them, and when I said we need to she didn’t respond. It made me feel worthless, and I have depression, which has been under control this last year but last year it was rock bottom. This has made me feel like all those things my depression tells me are true - that I am worthless, that I’m a bad person, that people don’t really like me. It hurt a lot.
And now she has said that she just needs to think about how she feels and then we can talk about it. But I feel like it is too late, the damage is done and she’s hurt me so much that I don’t know how I’ll trust that she cares again. I don’t want to lose her, that’s what has been so upsetting about this, but I just don’t know how I can go back from this?
Any advice would be really appreciated.