I've been seeing a man for nearly three months. He seems genuinely lovely, kind and undemanding. I really like being with him and there does seem to be a chemistry of sorts when we are together. But I have some issues - we are about an hour away from each other so with kids (mine) and work we usually manage to see each other once a week, sometimes twice. Recently though we have really struggled to get together and I am finding I am less interested in him the longer we are apart.
I think this is because he wouldn't let me go to his house last weekend because he said his house was a mess. This was the Saturday, on the Sunday we had arranged a double date meal out with some friends of his. His friend changed the times and I couldn't go because I had childcare issues at that time. To be honest I felt really cross that we hadn't managed to meet up all weekend when I had planned childcare and we were both off work (both shift workers). I did blame him in my head and felt unvalued because he hadn't put any effort into his house so I could go over. I know it wasn't his fault directly that the time of the meal was changed on the Sunday although he knew I couldn't go at that time. But I understand that he wanted to see his best friend and we've not been together long enough for me to take priority.
So, that's over a week since we last got together, planned to meet yesterday but he agreed to go into work so that was cancelled, and then today, he was coming over and an accident on the motorway held everything up for 3 hours so he gave up and went home.
It just seems to me that he is saying he wants to be with me (if you read the messages he sends me) but in reality he isn't putting any effort in to organising it. I don't know whether I am over reacting, every thing in isolation could be out of his control but then why not put some effort into sorting his house so I could go there?
Am I wrong? Am I expecting too much? I have not dated for a long time so I am really not sure where I am at with this.