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Seeing ExP’s Child

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LouisaJenny · 16/11/2019 21:03

I was with my exP for a couple of years. We lived together, broke up last month due to him not wanting any further children.

He has a DD who is 7 from a previous relationship. We got on fantastically well and had a wonderful relationship. As our breakup was pretty amicable, my ex has suggested I keep seeing him when he has his DD. He has her every weekend, so he suggested I see her every other weekend if it suits. So far this has been ok, we do the usual things together as a 3.

The reason for my post is I just don’t know if it’s reasonable to keep this up. I adore his DD, but wonder how this will continue when we meet new partners. I also think seeing them both together is really quite painful as it’s a reminder that we aren’t the same little family we were. I feel like I’m moving on quite well post break up, then we do something together and I end up feeling quite upset at the end of the day (when Im home, without them seeing).

Seeing his DD without him isn’t really an option.

Does anyone have any experience with something similar?

OP posts:
Timeforanamechange2020 · 16/11/2019 22:59

Unfortunately you have to breakup with his DD too. My DS has said if I ever break up with my DP he would still want to be his friend and visit him which is so cute but realistically unless the step child is old enough to see the ex under their own steam them it’s not going to happen.

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