Should I talk to the mother?

[VaguelySensible]

My friend has a16yo dd. The dd's new boyfriend is an 18yo from my ds's circle of friends. I've known him for several years and he's a lovely young man, good-natured, polite, considerate, funny.

But I have a concern about him and I don't know whether I should tell my friend, or keep out of it.

When it comes to alcohol, this young man has no control. He gets totally, uncontrollably drunk. His friends need to look after him to keep him safe, as he behaves badly and often passes out. He has smashed up things at a party when he got drunk. He comes on to any and every girl when he is drunk and chases her pathetically. (Usually resulting in the breakup of any relationship he is in at that point.)

He has never assaulted anybody while drunk, or while sober, either.

Should I tell my friend?

Yes I would definitely tell my friend. she might not speak to her Dd about it, but she will be aware of it should her dd start having issues with him.

Yes, i would tell her succinctly once and then change the subject. It's up to her what she does with the information.

So you wouldn't consider it malicious gossip?

It might, after all, have been a phase that he has grown out of. Now he has a job and gets up early for work...

The kids won’t listen and if they wanted to, they will stop talking tiny about it. Don’t tell your friend about her DD but maybe say to the DD that u are there if she ever wants to talk. Turning to get them to
Be mature at that age is like howling at the moon - it will get u no where x

He’s behaving like an 18 year old. Irresponsible, but having fun. I doubt very much he’s think of settling down any time soon and hasn’t yet (to our knowledge) promised life long commitment to your friends daughter. I don’t see what’s to be gained to be honest. If he cheats on her, then it’s over. He has to learn consequences and she’ll get over it at 16. To be honest, I’d be more inclined to talk to his parents if he’s getting so drunk he’s passing out, they should have a chat with him about safety.

Tell her, I have a 16 year old Dd and whilst I probably wouldn't say anything I'd certainly keep more of an eye out.