Help with boyfriend..

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My partner and I have been together for over a year, we are now expecting but we don't see each other much. I suffer with extreme anxiety so I have been questioning him... I know he doesn't talk to other girls as we both have each other's passwords in case something happens to each other. The last time we saw each other was on the 12th, we slept together and everything seemed perfectly fine! We were our usual selves. It's not a few days later and well.. he's a little distant, I know he suffers with depression and is very reserved. I've asked him have his feeling changed (via sc as I'm currently too sick to go to the campus!) and he said they've not changed at all, he just has shit going on. He says he misses my voice, lips, smile.. etc.. but I just don't know if it's genuine? Whenever we see each other we're so in love and clingy and you can see we love each other... but via the phone? We do talk 24/7 but it's NOT the same AT ALL. But tbf he is in uni. Do you think I'm overthinking this..? Being 19, pregnant and scared of a partner losing feelings isn't easy

Ah sounds tough to be apart from your partner when you’re pregnant.

What’s your plan - when does he finish uni? Are you planning to move to the uni town so you can be a family?

@AtrociousCircumstance currently we're very early in the pregnancy so it's fine that we don't live together but he has said he plans on getting a flat close to where I live for when the baby is born. We have spoken about moving in together, marriage and everything else. It's just scary

Clingy is not what love is.

@lookatthebabypenguin he's only been like it since my depression messed up since I used to self harm.

It sounds scary OP. The main thing is look after yourself, stay as calm and centred as you can - what will be will be. It’s normal to feel extra emotional when you’re pregnant and the stakes are higher in terms of you wanting to depend on your boyfriend, hence you feeling so insecure.

It sounds like his intentions are good, you guys have a plan. There will be ups and downs but never feel bad for seeking reassurance from the one who loves you. Especially not now.

Whatever happens it will be ok. Hold on and pay yourself a lot of caring attention. Congrats on your baby

@AtrociousCircumstance thanks for your help :) I do look after myself but sometimes it's hard to get out of bed.. which is when he does run to the rescue. He's an absolute sweetheart and does deserve so much better than me.. hence why I'm so afraid!

Aw don’t put yourself down - lift yourself up. You need to love and cherish yourself as well as that little baby who’s on the way!

@AtrociousCircumstance update, we've split up. His sister has said disgusting things about me and he now says he's not ready to be in a relationship.. even though we've got a little one on the way. I'm confused, broken, hurt.

I am so sorry to hear that you have split and his sister is being nasty.

My advice would be to step back from them and give yourself lots of love and rest so you don't get stresses whilst pregnant.

Let him have some space and you need to build up your self esteem. Don't contact him. He might just be overwhelmed by everything.
But you are top priority and the baby. So look after yourself.

Do you have support from friends and family?

@lexiepuppy the only person I have support from is my gran, thank god I never moved in with him..

@AtrociousCircumstance woke up to a strange message :s he's said he wants to take things slow and see where we end up... I don't know what to think or say.

Oh dear how difficult OP. The time has come to focus on yourself, your health, the people around you who you can rely on.

Tell him this child will be in his life for the rest of his life and regardless of what happens between the two of you he will have to step up and be a father.

He sounds very immature. Do you have a support network around you - your parents, friends?