I went on a date with a new guy last week (not the same person my recent thread was about). When I met him I thought he was nice looking but I didn't feel this 'spark' everyone keeps going on about. I enjoyed his conversation and felt we had a lot in common. He asked to meet again at the end and I said yes.
In the past when I have gone by looks it never works as it impairs my judgement and in the end the truth shows that some of these men are not compatible. This guy text me tonight asking what I thought after the first date. I told him thought he was good company and easy to talk to with common ground but cannot know someone after one date.
He said it makes a change to hear that and women always decide from the first date which must mean they don't want to see him again. He said he doesn't know after one date if he can decide if the illusive spark is there.
I replied and said that some people have unrealistic expectations and that sparks are not always instant and can impair judgement. I also said it is a bit like when you first become friends or start a job, you give it a chance and in time know if it is right for you. I am waiting for his reply.
I personally feel a second date is needed to determine whether to go further. From past experiences I have fallen for friends vice versa after spending a lot of time with them. Why are people obsessed with the spark? I feel people refer to the spark as sexual attraction. I understand you need to feel good with them but it seems people are being written off before being given a chance.