After coming out of an abusive relationship it took me nearly 3 years to find someone new that was great for me and my son. I had never felt so loved by someone before in years of dating, him and my 4 year old were best buddies and he made me feel so at ease and comfortable. We were together a year, spoke often about the future, that he wanted children, to get married. I honestly thought things were great.
But as fine went on I noticed he was very OCD about his home and wanted things in a very set way like if the the iron board was the wrong way round in the cupboard or if I git water from washing up on his plant pots he would comment on it. He is 32, his father died 6 years ago followed by his mother 4 years ago who he took care of until she passed away and he now lives in her home. I understand why he is the way he is with his home and I was very respectful of that when me and my son were there. He picked out the paint that he liked for what would be my sons room and I brought it.
Then he changed his mind thar he wasn’t ready and didn’t know how he was feeling out of the blue, bringing up that I was trying to change too much as I had offered him a washing machine in my garage to replace his broken one. I took my things home and offered him space and he said he overreacted hours later and aid to come back so we did the next day.
A week later we are laughing, joking, affectionate and slept together, I thought everything was fine. Then by lunch time he said he was feeling weird and got very annoyed and just changed. I was upset so went home. I then received a phone call saying that he’s never happy anymore, he hasn’t been for years and that where I used to make him happy I don’t anymore and that he no longer loves me even though he told me the day before that he loved me.
I said if there was anything I could do and he said that there’s nothing I can do to change his mind, that I havn’t done anything wrong and he doesn’t know if he can get around ever living with anyone. I even offered to pay for him to see a counsellor and he refused saying he doesn’t think it will help.
A week on I’ve left him to it but have been obsessing over what I did so wrong, I’m a student in my final year so have been stressed lately and on placement a lot, I’m scared I got too comfortable with him and scared him off and I was very keen for us to live together just because I loved spending fine and we had such a great uni with my son. His Facebook and WhatsApp photos are still of us 2 but I honestly thought he would change his mind and come back because I thought we were good together.
Either him or I would call each other throughout the day just for a chat and catch up. Now that’s all gone I miss him so much and I don’t know what to do. I feel lost without my best friend and my rock. Please help! I just want him back