Just need a handhold

[sunshine5997]

My DH and I had an argument, where the car door was open and he told me to move before I got hurt. I can't even remember what is was actually about. He took my dog for a walk, returns 2 hours later and goes upstairs. I have made dinner, offered it (no reply) and then took a bowl up to him. To be Told He isn't hungry.
I feel so shit, we both have stressful jobs etc but I just feel so alone and sad.
Sorry for the rubbish thread. I just feel lost

I am sorry to hear you are feeling so alone. Its horrible when you fall out with the man you love. Are you able to resolve it? Is this a continuous argument?

@TheTickingTime thank you so much for replying.
My husband cheated on 5 occasions during our relationship so I always feel horrible. I always aim to please; tidy house, lunch made, suits ironed/ dry cleaned. I just feel punished for something that happened but wasn't my fault.. sorry to rant. X

OP why are you with someone who cheats on you and makes you feel this way?

What does he do to deserve you?

@Ilovethekitties I'm not entirely sure, I do absolutely everything for him but I guess what's what happens when you get married. God I feel so bloody stupid seeing this written down.
I base my life around him, don't don't have DC just yet.

Wow he sounds awful and a big waste of life.
Divorce is the best solution here.
Fast divorce.

@sunshine5997 the trouble with that paragraph sunshine is that IS NOT what happens when you get married.

My DP and I are equal in every single way, including housework - we both work busy full time jobs (I am currently on maternity leave).

Sunshine it sounds like you have lost yourself. Think about five years from now, will you still be a servant to your husband? You should go to see a councillor and learn how to love yourself. He should be the only justifying and proving to you about why he deserves YOU after all this fuckery. Do you think he loves you with all of his cheating and using you as a maid or are you just convenient for him?

If you end up having DC's and have a daughter, would you want her growing up thinking this is normal? Would you be happy if she were where you are now?

Sending hugs OP, I think you need to learn to love yourself and remember that it shouldn't be you having to impress your husband to make him love you. It should be a mutual love. Good luck.

This is not "what happens when you get married" unless you marry a cheating arsehole

You don't have kids. Brilliant. Much easier to kick this fucking loser into the middle of next week then.

Are you happy living like this? Surely not..
Life is so so short...and we are in control of our own happiness.
Have a really hard think of yourself in 10 years time..is this where you want to be?
Hes cheated on you 5 times?? Surely that set alarm bells ringing...your doing everything for him....what does he do for you?
Luckily you don't have children with him..he sounds like an arse..

Be kind to yourself and know your worth..

Big hugs op xx

To add to the child thing, if he has cheated on you already, then think about all of the hormonal change and your lack of sex drive if you were to get pregnant. He WILL cheat again.

5 times! I'm so sorry OP but he has shown you who he is; repeatedly. You sound utterly defeated and I'm not surprised as you are the only one putting any effort into the marriage.

Please consider leaving him, he is a horrible person and continues to treat you terribly. Aside from his cheating he also sounds like a stroppy man child. You deserve to be treated so much better.

Thank you all for being so kind. It's what I needed. ♥️

Don't consider, just leave him.
He's a cheating manipulative bully.