Suspect DP is on hookup site

[Newnameforthis111]

I don’t know what to do, I’m 70% sure it’s him. I’ve tried creating a fake profile and messaging but he’s not responded. Feel like I’m going a bit mad and don’t know what to do next

Why do you suspect its him?

How long has it been since you messaged him on there?

Details fit with regards to location, height, weight etc. You can see when users are online and it’s always when I’m out of the house. There’s a couple of pics that basically just show his body, not much at all though but they look like him. The rest of the pics you have to become friends to view. I messaged 3 days ago

Can you tell if the message has been read?

Maybe he knew it was from a fake profile.

Anyway you can access his emails/phone? I know it’s frowned upon, but I’d soon be snooping if I thought my DP was on a hook up site!

Do you have a friend he isn't familiar with? Ask them to try to connect with him.

Yes it says read.
No chance of accessing email, I don’t know the code for his phone and I suspect he’d probably set up a separate account for this.
It’s a gay hookup site

You can't tell for sure if the pics of the man's body are your boyfriend's?

Fabguys again?

It’s hard to explain without showing you the actual picture. It’s a side on picture that’s been massively cropped so it’s just torso. It looks like him but I can’t say for sure

Obviously if it was a full body I could tell but it’s arms and some torso it’s impossible to say for sure

How did you come across the profile?

Did you go looking? And if so, what has he done to make you think he’d be on a gay hookup site?

I went looking. There is a huge backstory to this that I won’t go into because all I want is to find out if it’s him.
There was a thread on here a few days ago about a gay hookup site, I’d already scoured a few but hadn’t heard of this particular one.

Does your profile look genuine enough?

I have no idea how you’d find out, other than looking on his phone.

I’m sorry you’re in this position, it must be awful.

Was your profile as a man?

Good luck to you with what lies ahead ⚘

I don’t know if it’s genuine enough, probably not. I didn’t really know what to write in the message and probably got it completely wrong.
Looking at these websites to try and see if the father of your children is trying to pick up other men is probably the most soul destroying thing I’ve ever done.

And yes my profile was as a man, I got that bit right at least

Would he let you “borrow” his phone because yours is flat? And then you could go through it.

Or is he sneaky with his phone?

Maybe sit next to him and watch him put the code in?

I think your answers will be in his phone.

He’s too sneaky with it. He has Face ID so I basically never see him put the code in.

Yes, I am 100% sure I’d find something on his phone, it’s just getting hold of it and then getting into it that’s the problem.

Make up a fake profile and work on it for a good while before trying to contact him. Make up a whole new persona online, make sure it looks genuine... Then contact again

OP have you suspected him might be gay before this?

Thanks, yes looks like I will have to make another profile. I’ve spent some time I will never get back looking at other profiles so have a better idea about what to write

ilovethekitties Yes I have suspected, huge backstory that I won’t go into. Just wanted to see if anyone had any ideas for how I can figure this particular problem out

Yes, I think it’s going to be a waiting game I’m afraid.

Make your profile look real, learn the lingo, spend time online, and try to contact again.

I can’t begin to imagine how you feel, and it’s going to be horrible having to spend time on that site, but I can’t see any other way if you can’t get into his phone or emails.

Stop wasting your time. End it and move on.