Im in somewhat of a turmoil at the minute. I live alone with my son and daughter. 6 years ago i met a nice lady whose husband had died 6 years previously, so her husband has now been dead for 12 years. There has always been 2 events every year that i dread, that's the aniversary of his death and his birthday. During these periods she will be low, angry, argumentative and just not very nice to me. When these periods are over we talk at great length about the situation, unfortunately she just won't except that there is a problem. We've just returned from a few days in Ireland that clashed with his death, i mistakenly thought it would be good to get away at this time, you know break the circle etc. Well it was the worst ever !! I probably should of walked a few years ago but love her to bits and want to make it work, however, i guess the Ireland trip was a real wake up and smell the coffee moment. It pretty much tears me up, lack of sleep no appetite. Don't get me wrong those dates are important and loved ones should be remembered but remembered without suffering to others. Ive suggested bereavement counseling but she completely dismisses this. I really do think it's time for me to move on, I'm 49 and cant cope with it anymore. Any advice appreciated,