I've been with my husband for 10
Years, married for 2. We have an 12 month old son, who was planned.
When I met him, he was so much fun and a tight laugh. We hung out in the same crowd, and had a fantastic summer. He was a bit overweight, but I fancied him like mad.
For a good few years he remained good fun, we had a laugh, and did plenty together. I supported him in his sporting hobbies, and he would spend a lot of time doing his hobbies, but I never mixed as didn't want to be 'that woman' who told him what to do and how to spend his time.
He is by far the most selfish person I know, and I knew this when getting together.
Anyway without telling you all the whole of the last ten years, so I may miss bits out that can later be answered.
For a good three or so years my husband has become a fitness freak, goes gym five days a week, on a permanent diet of bulking or cutting (terms he uses for gaining weight or losing weight and following programs) plays golf every week etc
Since having our son, none of this has changed. His life pretty much hasn't changed too much, other than he doesn't go and 'hit balls' now on a Thursday.
I find he is just so bloody miserable, snappy, argumentative ALLLLLL of the time! He was before baby, so it's not that.
I've asked him is he unhappy, is it because I've gained weight, does he want to leave, does he wish he was with someone athletic like him, is there something we can work on....
He just replies he is fine and just busy and stressed.
I've got to a point I just don't know what to do. I miss my fun loving man, who was my bestie and now have a husband I worry about saying wrong thing.
I was getting snappy back at him and he said I was as bad, so I've done something about it. I've gone back to my doctors and discussed my current medication, as one I felt enhanced my moods...taken off of it, spoke about problems at hime etc
He won't do anything. He is particularly bad when he is cutting, as he goes in a drastic diet making him the moodiest person around! He has done this diet three times now, and I told him he is not to do it again as I'm not putting up with the constant mood.
I guess I'm only posting as wanting to vent, as don't really see friends since I've had my boy, so no one to talk too