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Was I top harsh on this guy ?

11 replies

Phoenixxx · 12/11/2019 20:51

I knew him when we were teenagers, hadn't seen him in a decade but he added me on Facebook so messaged to have a catch-up.

Before long, he had liked about 7 of my photos at once using the 😮 emoji, and just found it a bit sleazy.

Anyway, he started saying how great I looked, and then double texting me saying I was shit at messaging back, so I just let the conversation fizzle.

A month later he messaged again saying I had walked past him in town and 'how good I looked'. It was putting me off that he always had to comment on how I was looking. He asked me for a drink but I had started seeing someone and told him so, and he seemed to get the message.

A month later, he tried a third time, saying he had 'seen me on Tinder' even though I am no longer on it. Every time I tried to stop the conversation he would find a way to start it up again.

In the end I said "i'm sorry, but I am not interested and I have tried to make that clear. I don't want you to waste your time messaging me and I'm sure you will meet someone soon."

He replied saying "what the hell are you on about ? Where have you got that from, i'm only trying to make conversation and be polite."

I explained my reasons and then he stopped and I didn't hear from him again.

Does it sound like I did the right thing ? He tried 3 times and was just being very persistent.

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Phoenixxx · 12/11/2019 20:51

Top harsh *!

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DioneTheDiabolist · 12/11/2019 20:53

No OP, you were not too harsh. I would have blocked him at the first signs of sleaze.

Eslteacher06 · 12/11/2019 20:55

You were very restrained! I'd be saying "fuck off you freak" personally!

byefeliciabye · 12/11/2019 20:55

You absolutely did the right thing OP! I would've blocked him. He sounds sleazy.

cacklingmags · 12/11/2019 20:56

No, If you are not interested it is kinder to say so. He sounds a wee bit on the creepy side.

rvby · 12/11/2019 20:57

Nah you were polite and factual. He is doing the normal snowflake-man thing of low-level DARVO and pretending you are the one with the problem, when he was being transparently sleazy and unappealing.

Dieu · 12/11/2019 21:21

He was a dick. And then when you called him out on it, he turned it on you. It's depressingly predictable for men of his ilk.

'Course he was just being polite Hmm

Phoenixxx · 12/11/2019 21:43

Yeah I guess he just came out with that as he was défensive. I did find him sleazy so i'm glad hes stopped.

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Sandals19 · 12/11/2019 21:46

i'm only trying to make conversation and be polite."

Yeah I bet he Facebook messages elderly men telling then how good they look, liking all their pics etc - because that's how he makes conversation and is polite.

Hmm.

Where is the eye roll emoji on mn? Please can we have one.

Sandals19 · 12/11/2019 21:47

He was being quite persistent (and a bit sleazy) SK no, I didn't think you were too harsh.

His reply was ridiculous.

theboxfamilytree · 12/11/2019 22:00

I wouldn't have bothered explaining yourself. He knew what he was doing.

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