Me and my partner have been together 7 years and have an almost two year old DD. We have been having some problems for the last few months and basically I'm wondering if I can live the rest of my life with him as I don't think he treats me well at all.
Two months ago, I found out I was pregnant. I had huge mental health issues after my DD was born that still persist and I have found motherhood so hard. I simply am not ready for another child. Truth be told, I don' t want to have a second baby at all. Whilst he agreed that it was the right decision, a part of him definitely wanted me to keep it, but I just couldn't. Obviously I was upset about the decision too. Since I had the termination, our relationship has deteriorated.
He is almost always cold, distant and doesn't want to talk to me. He has a warped sense of humour and has always made saracastic comments but recently it's gotten more mean. He makes sarcastic comments like 'You can't eat/drink that, you are pregnant. Oh that's right, you got rid of it'. He works in Birmingham 2 nights/3 days a week. I asked him what would happen if I got pregnant again and how I would cope with 2 babies on my own when he is away. He said 'just do what you always do' (I also had a termination way back in 2005-not with him). Most days he says 'right that's it, we're finished'. In fact, I've been crying this morning because that's the last thing he said to me before he left for Birmingham. When I say 'no, we're not', he says ' I should get a girlfriend in Birmingham'. He knows he upsets me but tells me to stop crying and being soft. I'm not sure if there is another woman, there's no signs otherwise. We had a childfree day on Sunday and unfortunately spent most of it arguing :(
I work 3 days a week. He says I don't do enough housework, says I treat DD as an inconvenience, says I have loads of free time and I do nothing. I think I might be depressed and this relationship isn't helping. Partner earns good money and we live in a lovely house which I don't want to lose. I don't want to be treated like this though. What do i do? Sorry it's a bit fragment and garbled.