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Pregnant and relationship is failing

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harrybow23 · 11/11/2019 23:37

Hi everyone, I just need some non judgemental advice really. I don't have many friends and it's not something I'm really ready to go to my family with yet so hopefully some of you can be of some help!!

So, I am 23, I have a four year old son with my ex partner who is very involved in his life and an amazing dad. I met my current partner 2 years ago and I found out 8 weeks ago I am pregnant with my second child (roughly around 14 weeks now). Here's where it gets tricky, me and him haven't been good for a while now, the person I fell in love with has turned into someone I would never of gone near in a million years.
My fun loving kind boyfriend has turned into a miserable not very nice person with incredibly questioning outdated views on the world which are strongly conflicting with mine.

We've had months of some really horrible arguing and I had spent almost every day for months crying and unhappy. He now wants to go back to normal and is being all nice and actively trying to work it out but I feel like I've fallen out of love, I don't want to kiss or hug him, or be intimate in any way and I can tell it's upsetting him now. Everything he does irritates the life out of me and the love has died on my side. I really am stuck on what to do.. every time I try and tell him about this he shuts me down..
any advice would be appreciate and thanks so much for reading.
Keziah x

OP posts:
UnicornsExist · 12/11/2019 04:46

Have you tried talking to your DP about how you feel? Do you want the relationship to work or do you think it has died so much that it has come to the point where you would be better off single?
At 14 weeks you still have options regarding the pregnancy if you should decide that the time is wrong for you to have a second baby. If you definitely want this baby then you have already been through the baby phase once, second time is much easier to cope with so you will be OK if you decide to split from your DP.
You are still very young to be facing bringing up a baby in a relationship with someone who you no longer want to be with. Staying with someone who you don't want to be with is miserable. Personally I think that you need to decide if you want to fix this relationship or to be single again. Your decision about the relationship may affect how you feel about your pregnancy. Not a nice position to be in Flowers

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