What will my future bring

[Billscat]

Hi there. Divorced my ex H last year- neither of us was happy and he now has a baby due next month with new gfriend. I also fell in love but that hasnt worked out. I spose when i got married nearly ten years ago i didnt think life would be like this. I have one DC who is 5 and lovely- 50/50 custody with ex H. Im 34 i wonder will i be alone forever. I worry about my age. Any nice stories out there?

34 is no age. I think most women worry about growing older in their 30s, but most do eventually get their head round it. I'm 42 now and did have a few years where I didn't like the idea, but you do learn to live with it more comfortably.

There are loads of potential partners out there who won't see 34 as a problem.

Relationships are overrated anyway- enjoy your own space and friendships etc, and if someone comes along, it's just a bonus. xxx

Crumbs op don't right yourself off just yet!!
I met a smashing man (now dh) when I was 42 and had dc! Lots!!
He was 31!

How did u meet him wintersdays

How did u meet him winters

I went to my cousin's wedding at the weekend - she is sixty and it was the happiest day ever!

Don't you stress yourself too much... 34 is nothing. Im 34. Separated from my 2dc dad 5 years ago. Met "the one"a year later. (We are going through some very deep stuff, may not even make it...read my threads) but he is my ONE. even if we dont make it and im heartbroken... i know... life has its ways and theres always a rainbow after the storm... my kids dad went on to having another child too very soon after the split. (Burnt a bit somehow but i dont really care anymore, happy for them ) there will be something better waiting for u somewhere. You just have to ride the storm. By the way i met my one OLD (i always judged people OLD until i tried it myself and found my soulmate)

Had a very peculiar day dream actually!!. A bit woo tbh!!
That I would meet a man name x and he would work at y.
Then 1 night I asked dd to come for a drink with me. Never had as it's a bit grim imo!!
Our local wine bar a lot earlier than I usually did. Monthly night out with a mate and post pub hours as a rule.
Met a man at the bar, swopped drinks and downed his pint!!
Kissed at the bar and never had a night apart in 7 years. His name was x and he did indeed work at y!!
Married with a dc now!!
And he lived in my tiny tiny village but had never seen him before!!

But how old were you

I was 41, he was 31!!

I could have written that myself Billscat. I feel exactly the same way. I am 34, and have 2 children, am divorced and no idea what the future will bring for me. It's sad, its scary and the uncertainty almost kills me.

At your age I was going through similar. My ex-DH and I had split (we have 2 DC) and within the year he was with someone else and she was pregnant. I met someone too and that lasted a number of years, but sadly didn't work out (cheating bastard). I'm late 40's now and in a new relationship. Moral of the story is, don't write yourself off. Concentrate on yourself for a while, learn to be a friend to yourself and you will find someone worthy or your time.