Ive split from my ex after 3 years this year. It was a bitter split and currently trying to sort the house as we bought a house together.
I then met another man- very much my type, everything my ex wasn't and is a good man too.
However, he has anxiety and has just had his divorce finalised. He has had a relationship since his divorce/split 2 years ago but told me it ended because he was messaging other girls and has been very honest with a few things with me which surprised me. He has said he's feeling pretty low and unable to commit to anything right now.
Ive said I understand as emotionally I am unsure I can commit too right now. So we've both walked away as I have said I need to go away and repair the hurt from my ex etc and he said he is in the same boat. We've spoken intermittently but always leads to sexting- he tells me he misses my body a lot but tells me he's sorry he can't be what he wants for me? And he hopes I find the right guy as I deserve him?
I find this so confusing- I can read this in many ways. Is it a case of right guy wrong time? Or is he simply never going to be interested? Or he does like me but unable to emotionally commit and is too much of a mess right now and his confidence is shattered a bit?
He has said he does overthink things (which I can do too) and I have clearly told him I'm not looking for a relationship right now so it confuses me that he pushes me a way in one way but not in another....?
The bottom line is I'm happy to be a friend and just support him but he said he has kept his distance because he hasn't been able to give me what I want?