Have been with partner for around 4 years we are both in our 30’s and must admit the spark between us is really starting to struggle, We are down to having sex maybe 2 or 3 times a month and even then it feels a bit like a chore
We have both been guilty of becoming over comfortable with each other and getting bogged down by day to day life and routines we don’t have children but still have busy life’s with work , house chores , family , friends etc
We have talked about the struggling sex life and a few issues came to light the main one being he doesn’t think I make enough effort to be sexy anymore ….. I will admit I am very partial to a hot water bottle ,dressing gown and fluffy socks when I am able to chill out in the evenings, he said he doesn’t find this look particularly attractive
It sounds silly but I am not the most confident of women I have a very small bust and find I do struggle to be naturally “sexy”
I’m curious if anyone else has encountered similar issues or is dwindling sexual attraction brushed under the carpet in your household ?